Do most women try to change a man after they get married?

Answer 1

If they do then why did they marry them

Answer 2

LOL! You crack me up!

A woman gets married expecting that she will change the man, and a man gets married hoping that she will stay just the way she is. Ironically, both are wrong. But the deal about marriage is...

For the modern American male, American marriage is like playing Russian roulette with a semi-automatic.

Why? Because the term “starter husband” has now become a common term where a woman will get married and have at least one child so she gets children and a guaranteed income at the expense of any sucker who will fall for it, and then she is free to divorce him, have sex with whomever she wants, and drag the kids through one failed relationship to the next all the while marginalizing the starter husband out of her children’s lives.

Do you think that’s the exception? Guess again.
The ugly truth is that more than often than not, marriages will end in divorce. Over 90% will be initiated by the woman. The man will get raked over in family court. She will get the house, the kids, 40-60% of their assets, and more than half of his disposable take home income for the next 18 years. He will see his kids 2 out of 14 days (he is lucky if she doesn't level unsubstantiated "abuse" claims – a death sentence for men that requires no substantiation whatsoever). If he loses his job due to illness or downsizing, the State will toss him in jail. While jailed the arrearage will grow and the state will charge interest. The State will revoke his driver's and professional licenses, make him virtually unemployable.
Women love to carry on about how men are afraid to commit. The real problem is that women are all to willing to bail for any reason or none at all, thanks to "no-fault" divorce. Worse, there is financial incentive for her to divorce, since she gets all the spoils of war, and her income is now guaranteed, if not by the father, then by the state. Her income is fixed at his highest level of pay. God forbid when the American economy takes a dive and most of the men are still required to pay at the level of imputed income (what they “should” be able to make) when they genuinely cannot find a job. In marriage, both the husband and wife endure the pain of temporary hardship. In divorce, only men and children suffer; not the women.
If you were to take up sky-diving, and the instructor informed you that more than half of the parachutes were defective, would you still jump? Not on your life. And only the dumbest of American men have not come to terms with this fact. But one way or another, they will.
Meanwhile, the men's Marriage Strike is alive and well, thank you. Up to 30% of eligible males, now, and growing.
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Answer 3

what do u mean after marriage most women dont even wait until they get the man married to try and change him...... i think most women look at a guy like this ... they see a guy and think u know with some fixing up he might not be have bad when if they'd learn that if u take someone as they are things would be alot better off

Answer 4

I've heard a common phrase that states "Women get married hoping that the man will change. Men get married hoping that the woman won't"
Sadly, it's kinda hard wired in the psyche to try and "improve" the person that we are involved with. There are many reasons to support this thought process, but what all too many of us fail to realize is that it's the flaws that endear us to our respective partners to begin with.

Answer 5

When 2 get married, they become comfortable in their position as time goes by. This causes them to forget all the necessity's of keeping a good marriage. but both thrive to get the attention but stop giving it. Women have more sensitive feelings, therefore its usually the women that begins to change based on the lack of affection they get from their man. While the man thinks everything is fine, its not. Women begins to become agitated with man. Man notices a change in women but doesn't know what it is so he gets an attitude. This attitude in man gets worse. Women begins to complain about man all the time and man labels her as a nag. Women just wants her affection but both are not aware of the origination of problem. Women keeps trying to change man instead of being aware she is the one making the problem worse. Whether you are man or women you should realize your spouse is just thriving for the one thing you married her for, LOVE. Show the love and affection regularly and many problems will solve themselves.

Answer 6

Mostly, but not all.
Those who wanted to change the other is just b'cos she wants him to do according to her opinions. Decides what is good for him, what he should not do, what he should follows.
At the same time, trying to change his appearance, what clothings is suitable for him.

All these are what she can only do to her husband inside thier marriage, for secure, that she only wants him to be her only man & the one husband that really treasures, loves, values & respects her.

While others who don't, for they themselves think that they will not be controlled by each other. They want freedom as well. Have their own opinions & decisions, planning what they want their life to be.

Happy married life does not matters on how successful you've changed the other. Its a matter of how hard you've worked & sacrifice for the marriage.

Answer 7

I think the women commit to a deep relationship thinking they have a diamond in the rough and that they can correct any flaws. The men on the other hand don't want the women to change and they (the women) invariably do. The only way for a successful relationship is compromise.

Answer 8

I don't know about most women but when I got married I knew that I couldn't change my husband. Before we got married I knew that I had to accept him the way that he was in order to make him my husband. There are things that I got him to stop doing out of sheer sensitivity to my needs and respect for our union. I have heard that some women try to change their husbands after they are married but I feel like they need to accept who their husbands are in the beginning and love them for who they are.Maybe they should take time to find out if their partners are willing to modify themselves after they are married. We all know that there are some things that we shouldn't do after we are married. Same goes for women. Maybe that is why most churches suggest or even demand that you get counseling before marriage.

Answer 9

I think thats a given in relationships a woman will try and morph the man into some fantasy she has played through her mind since childhood. Not saying that the things shes making him change arent neccessary sometimes. Look at all the tv shows like Dr.phil.

Answer 10

When a relationship is new, everyone's on their best behavior. We're polite, we have sex a lot, women shave their legs everyday, men exercise to stay fit, we work hard to put our best foot forward.
Then we get married. Let's face it. We don't have to work so hard. But some people expect their spouses to stay in the mode as they were before they got married. It doesn't happen. But I think that's why spouses try to change their mates.

Answer 11

I think that most women try to change their partner's behaviour, and are very disappointed if they are successful.

Its like a subconscious test to see if the guy has a spine or not.