2007-03-08 13:20:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no im not the one who slept with a married person i would never, but im in a relationship with someone who has and it bothers me
2007-03-08 13:39:14 · update #1
Why do you ask. Was it you that did the sleeping around?
That would be a NO because this is an indicator of what a rotten person he/she is. And believe me, there are a lot of you "people" that are rotten to the core.
Notice I said people and did not single out any gender.
2007-03-08 13:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Their past is their past. You can't change it, and that doesn't mean that they are the same person they were when it happened.
Example: A young man (22) gets involved with a married woman (36). They have a torrid 6 month affair. Towards the end of the affair he decides he doesn't want to be in this sort of relationship any longer and calls off the affair. Years pass. The young man is now in his late 30's and is dating a woman whom he would like to marry. Should she dump him when she finds out his past, which he has NOT concealed nor lied about? No, she shouldn't. He is not the same person he once was. In fact it is probably due to this experience (compounded w/ other life lessons) that he has turned into the man she loves.
2007-03-08 21:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends if you can truly accept it and forgive. Some people can not take back someone who they truly once love but that person totally betray them. But there are also people who can not leave that person becuz "they love that person, thats why they need that person"
Best Luck to you,,
learn how to 4give and 4get. Release yourself. Imagine if you Don't let things go. It will just hold you back and adding more weight to your shoulder. That =s pain.
2007-03-08 23:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by ceci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I'm engaged to someone who was still legally married when we moved in together. I was also still legally married at the time. We had each been separated for some time from our spouses prior to that, though.
2007-03-08 23:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an affair when I was married to my first husband. Very unhappy relationship. I am now remarried to a wonderful man who knows all about my past. Thankfully, he is not concerned about the mistakes I made before I met him.
2007-03-08 21:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kiddo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you let the person know that you are not going to put up with being cheated on i think that it is wortth a try. People make mistakes and deserve a chance. But you need to be sure to let them know where you stand on being cheated on. Good luck!
2007-03-08 21:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by kkmommy2424 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no because if they slept with a married person they have very low values and if you ever got married what would make them want to honor those vows
2007-03-08 21:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by jenny b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly i don't know. i would say no because i have been in this situation and things ended up bad, but if it was the right person and i knew they weren't like that anymore, i wouldn't hold it against them. the past is the past, and god knows i wouldn't want someone to discriminate against me because of the many mistakes i have made.
2007-03-08 21:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people make mistakes, this one is not a major one, just a follish little one
i wouldn't really care
but if they were the married person doing the sleeping around then thats a whole different story
2007-03-08 21:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are willing to do that what type of trust can you put in this person for your relationship?
2007-03-08 21:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋