Is divorce really a solution to marital problems or is it problems disguised as a solution?

Answer 1

If there isn't a reasonable solution to both parites problems divorce is the answer.

Answer 2

It depends. sometimes divorce is the solution if there was abuse, or its two people who will never see eye to eye about anything again. Although sometimes I truely believe there are marriages that with couseling can be saved, as long as both are willing to work at it.
Divorce does bring a lot of problems if the people getting one let the lawyers have their way. It also becomes a bad deal if the people involved figh over everything and try to trick each other out of things. They play games, and all sorts of things.

Answer 3

Divorce is rarely the solution to marital problems, but many people are too lazy to work on a marriage. Divorce should be a last resort when you have tried absolutely everything or if there is abuse.

Answer 4

Divorce eliminates marital problems by eliminating the marriage. It is a solution only in that cutting off your head to get rid of a cold is a solution to that problem.

Answer 5

First examine some extremes. She is frigid and never gives him intimacy, shows love, or talks to him. He beats her every single night. He starts dealing drugs. She starts smoking crack. They all refuse to change for years and through numerous attempts to help by the spouses.

Is divorce a spineless cop-out for these people? Hardly. And god damn anyone who says you should stay with such terrible people.

So, now let's look at less severe cases. Infidelity (still serious, mind you), gambling addiction, like that. People hang around years, decades trying to help or forgive. Then what? Stay and have more sh*t sandwiches stuffed down your throat?

It's ludicrous for people to come on here and say "for better or worse" is binding when the second party in the promise breaks that and numerous other wedding vows. I mean, a woman has to stay with me even though every time she comes home I am screwing another woman in our bed? That's just a warm steaming pile of horsesh*t.

Let's lower the flag of smarmy stuck up self righteous "oh *I* would never do that" behavior. The people who post here and claim to be so above it all - their turds stink just like everyone else's.

To be sure, sometimes people bail too quickly, but that doesn't mean divorce is not a viable logical healthy alternative for some couples.

Answer 6

For me, divorce was escape from the problems faced in the marriage. The problems were addressed and we tried to work them out but things didn't change for me inside my heart. I needed to leave in order to become a better ME and to let him become a better HIM. About divorce...it's not a solution because you never worked things out, but it is an opportunity for you to personally find solutions within yourself to hopefully not repeat the problems that were in the marriage that ended in a divorce. Divorce is sometimes a chance to learn and grow into who you're meant to be, only with someone else instead of your EX.

Answer 7

I don't think divorce is an answer in a lot of cases. I think that sometimes people see marriage as a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship where if you have a problem, you get on each other's nerves you break up. I think if 2 people love each other and want to be together they should work on it vs "I'm annoyed with you, its over."
In situations like abuse and cheating, I think it is a solution.

Answer 8

Basically it is the easiest solution to definitely end any and all marital problems. Its easier than to stand and fight for it, working things out. In most divorces, you can say its a "chicken" way out. Think about it

Answer 9

I think it depends on the situation. If your in a relationship that your spouse beats you and is a drunk or uses drugs and has no intention of changing, then I say get out. But if your relationship has just lost its spark, then I say you need to reconnect. Discuss the issues at hand and see what you both can do to make it better. Just try new things, spend time alone and enjoy each other. And reach deep in your heart and find the love you had for each other and grab it and run. People fall in and out of love. But when they fall out of love, they think that it's over. WRONG! People change everyday. How do you think people have marriages last 50 years. Most fall in and out of love and back in again. Maby several times. But they know that the person they are with are worth getting through the low times. The key is to reprogram yourself. Get the bad thoughts out and invite the good ones in.

Answer 10

In most cases I believe it's a disguise.Many marriages could be saved if we would work our problems out instead of running to a lawyer every time something displeased us. If there is abuse or drug and alcohol problems I can understand the need to separate. In most cases where people grow apart or there is infidelity issues there can be solutions to the problem. We should spend more time solving our problems in marriages instead of solving our problems in divorce court.

Answer 11

The women sure think it is. Its a cop out. A reason to go screw other people.

Problem is, you lose half of everything and are still miserable after divorce it seems. I have never divorced but read all these Q and A on here about people that have. Not a pretty sight.

People ought to be smarter than this and negotiate an agreement so they don't have to divorce or cheat or all that other BS that is the marriage game.