dead beat dads suck?

Question

i have two teanage kids growing and needing lots of money for college car ins etc. my ex-husband only gives me a 100.00
a week for support he is suppose to keep health ins on them and hasnt i have to pay for it he does no more or no less for the kids if he had to keep the health ins. on the kids it would be about 60.00 a week its been 6 years and not one dime on the ins. my new husband thinks he should pay it back to me because of the court order or at least help out with the kids and the things they need 100.00 a week does not go far with teenagers he lives with his father no house payment car payment etc. should i get mean and take him back to court or just make due dead beat dads suck!

Answer 1

just two questions... if you did take him back to court, would it help your kids? would they benefit from it?

yes, it would.

you already know the answer to that.... and teens cost so much money, much more then babies. the clothes cost more, acne medicines, bras, pads, doctors every other week, activities, driving lessons, etc.

college is to be addressed also; for the support to continue til the child is 21, 23, 24 or whatever agreement is reached. every state is slightly different about this age, but the court will address the issue. you may have to file separately for that, the judge will let you know.

for the record, all states have an automatic cost of living increase today... its 2-4 years, depending upon the state.

DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.angelfire.com/creep/deadbeatparentssuck/
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm
www.goodparentspay.com

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

CHILD SUPPORT LAWS
http://www.lectlaw.com/files/fam11.htm

LAWS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/

FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://www.naag.org/issues/issue-consumer.php

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/
http://family.findlaw.com/

FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html

http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar02.html#d0e563
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 2

Agreed, deadbeat dads are no good. However, there are two sides to every story.

What sort of visitation rights does he have? What sort of financial situation is he in? Does he know what you are doing or did with the money when you did get it?

If he didn't have $100/week to send, you never let him see his kids, and he thought you and your new husband were going out to dinner on his dime, then I can see where he might be hesitant to send that check.

That being said, I obviously do not know anything about your predicament. I am only trying to offer a reason for his behavior.

If it were me, I would basically send him a letter saying in a diplomatic way what you have said here. Something like, "The divorce settlement specifies $100/week child support. If this is not possible, what can you afford to send? If you are afraid of how the money is spent, I can offer receipts." . . . and anything else you may think is reasonable and diplomatic.

However, I would also end it in an ultimatum by saying that the current situation is unacceptable and he will find himself back in court in x weeks if a peaceful solution is not worked out.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Honestly, its obvious that he is a deadbeat and by what you described he can't even survive on his own now. If you do get mean about it you are going to end up getting nothing. The courts will lock him up for the back pay in child support and during that time you won't get a dime. And as deadbeat as he is, you will never get any of it anyway. Do what you want, but taking him to court will only dig a deeper hole in your pocket b/c he doesn't have one.

Answer 4

take him back to court. he is breaking his child support order. those kids deserve the support that he is supposed to be paying. all the money that you are spending on their insurance could be used in other ways to make their lifes better.

Answer 5

get meaner than hell or your kids will suffer if you don't,I've been through it,and it's so hard to do,the older the kids get the more money you will need, be strong!

Answer 6

i haven't gotten a penny from my ex in years, no health insurance either

dead beat moms suck even more