Hey im 14 my 17 year old sister is 2 months pregent and she hasnt told our mom and i promised that i wouldnt tell mom what do it do and im scared for her what should i do
thanks for answering my question
2007-03-08 12:43:39 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Wow she needs to come out with it for her sake and the babies. It is hard but I'm sure your mother loves her enough to get her prenatal care. She needs it. If she doesn't maybe you could for your niece or nephew.
2007-03-08 14:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well be a caring sister. Tell your sister that you will be beside her whn she tells mom, either way your mom needs to know so your sister can start getting care through the pregnancy. Being pregnant is scarey, but having others with you along the way for support will be better than going through it alone.
Tel your sister this( did this with my mom) Tell her to go to a friends house or a place with a phone, call mom and talk to her over the phone. SOmetimes that is easier than face to face. So by the time she gets home things will be calm and easy to deal with, unless your mom is the type that freaks out easy.
2007-03-08 13:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sixteen when I got pregnant. I am not proud of myself but it happened. She needs to be able to feel comfortable to tell your parents. Use your best judgement. If my sisters when pregnant at a young age i think that i would tell my parents because she needs to decide on what she is going to do. It is her decision but she needs to consider adoption, abortion or if she would like to keep the baby. That is all up to her. Your parents can not make that decision for her. Be good sister and help her make the decision that is going to make her happy. There are alot of programs out there that will help teen parents. I got lucky and had my parents to support me. Unfortunately you are the only one that will know how your parents are going to react. Going to that doctor is one of the most important things that she needs to do. Tell her to think about her babies health just in case she decides that keeping her baby. Honestly its hard to be a teen parent,but she will need to be determined and have help, support and get her self some help if your parents are not willing to help her. Believe me being a parent is not easy and I love my daughter with all my heart but being a parent is a full time job. I am only twenty now and my daughter is three. Its hard but i work hard, make sure she has clothing, and has food on the table. tell your sister to make her decision based on what is right for her not what every one else. feel free to contact me or even your sister. I was her age my self when I first became a parent and i can give her some advise that might be help ful. my email is jessican_2007@yahoo.com.
2007-03-13 15:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your loyalty to your sister but this is an extremely important situation that your mother or other adult that you trust should know about. Try talking to your sister about your concern and find someone that you can talk to together. I had my first child when I was that age I am 27 now, and similarly I begged my sister not to tell, but as scary as it was telling my aunt was the best thing I could have done. I think you may be surprised to find that after the initial shock of it all how supportive and helpful your mom can be.
2007-03-08 12:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa W 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well this is your neice or nephew that is not being cared for. At 2 mos. pregnant she needs to see a doc and be on prenatal vits.
Tell her that if it were only her health that would be one thing, but now you're talking about the baby's health. Promises are fine, but when someone's health is in jeopardy... all bets are off.
Tell hershe has a week.. Then spill your guts.
2007-03-15 10:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by larsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is come clean with mom. I am sure you sister is scared but to have the loving support of your mother will be beneficial in the long run.
2007-03-08 14:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by mloinc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you promised not to tell you mom keep that promise.Just make sure your sister goes to the doctor for check ups and try to talk to her about telling your mom. tell her that mom will be disappointed and angry, but she will eventually get over because she loves you guys.just talk her into telling your mom , and make sure she goes to the doctor or a regular force her.if you can't be there with her tell her to bring her bestfriend or something of that sort.
2007-03-08 14:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by reggaesoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. Let her deal with it. Also, please do not go doing the same... enjoy life to the fullest.... she will now have to care for the baby and her problems telling your mom... now if your motjhe asks you, tell her yes she is but not while your sister is there... tell your mom to tell her she found out through someone else....by the way, i had my first at 31... i do not regret it..
2007-03-15 03:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by KAT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to her and tell her that you think SHE should talk to your mom. She is going to find out soon anyway. She'll be able to tell if she gets morning sickness and mostly when the baby gets so big she can't hide it anymore. She should be the one to tell because it would make it better for all of you. She needs to tell so she can get the right nutrition for the baby and so she can make sure her body is going to handle the baby well. I hope this helps you.
2007-03-08 13:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell...your resposability is to the baby not your sister. Everyday that goes by without the proper medical evaluations can prove to be fatel to your sister and the unborn child.
2007-03-14 09:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by tawny d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋