I have been with my husband for four years and we have a beautiful almost three year old son!!! we were planning to have another baby later in the future but i recently found out i am 1 month pregnant! i was taking care of myself with birthcontrol pills and i still got pregnant. When i told my husband he flipped and said it was all my fault and that he was not ready neither am i but he has not said anything to me everytime i want to talk to him about our neww baby he gets moody and tells me to leave him alone. But yet he asks me how am i feeling or how did the doctor's appointment went???but other than that he does not give me a attention or even a kiss. So finally my question is, is this just an anger phase........ or do you think he hates the baby for reals??? i have come to accept my baby and i am happy taking care of myself an telling everybody that i know!!! please help!
2007-03-08 12:28:03 · 9 answers · asked by *Loving my two boys* 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i have been married almost 6 years (next month) and we have 3 daughters....in june they will be 5, 2 and 1. we had the last two back to back (11 months apart) and we were using condoms and i ended up pregnant.
i was NOT ready to have the 3rd and my husband excepted it immediately. it was hard for me at first because i wasn't ready to have another one, we planned on only having 2 kids. physically, emotionally, financially and space wise it seemed impossible....
he will eventually get over it. he'll stop being upset about it. you know, if we waited until the "right" time to have children, we never would because there would always be a reason not to. you can't plan everything in life and it is my belief that it was meant to be at this time. he can think it's your fault all he wants but gently remind him, it takes two to make a baby....he can accept part of the "blame"
the kids will be perfect playmates/big sister/brother. our oldest loves her younger sisters and is very protective.
hopefully this helps as the shoe was on the other foot in my situation. i got over it and wouldn't have it any other way....
if you want to talk, email me at cheshiregirl0472@yahoo
2007-03-08 12:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by cheshiregirl0472 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's acting like a bit of a baby himself. I think I'd call it a phase, but what happens when you get hormonal? will he be able to handle it? sounds like you're pulling triple duty: moody husband, mom to a 3 year old, and another on the way. he has no right to be upset at you. this happens all the time. I don't think the really hates the baby. he needs to grow up and accept the fact that you ARE pregnant and start taking care of you AND the little one in your belly. things will work out.
2007-03-08 20:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to accept that no matter what you are having this baby and that it isn't your fault at all. It took two ppl to create the baby. You need to be completely upfront and honest with him about your feelings. Make him listen to you. Tell him his responsibilities and what you expect of him. You have a child together so, he knows how important it is for you to have someone to support you right now. He can't hate you or the baby. He is just acting childish so, nip this in the bud immediately! Tell him to be a man. Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy. Don't take any crap.
2007-03-08 20:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I understand him getting upset when you first told him, but if he continues to be this way then he needs to talk to someone about what he is feeling.. My husband and I have a daughter that will be a year old on the 16th and found out the 10th of Feb. that baby #2 is on the way. He got upset at first but within and hour or so he was in the office "our 3rd bedroom" cleaning it out and making plans for the room when we find out the sex.. We are now waiting to find out if it is twins or not, but still yet he was fine with it soon after I told him.. Talk to your husband and let him know what you are feeling and ask him to let you in on what is worring him... I hope things start to get better soon.. Best of Luck......
2007-03-08 23:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by auntietawnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure he will get over it once he sees his baby, but for right now he better start treating you better. He is being a jerk. He should know that anytime you have sex regardless of how you protect yourself there is always that risk of pregnancy., and it took both of you , not just you.
2007-03-08 20:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably still in shock/denial/etc. Maybe you could ask him to sit down and really talk with you, tell him calmly and non-accusingly how you're feeling and ask the same of him. Good luck!
2007-03-08 22:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by reflux mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will be fine, he is just angry for the time being. Still in a bit of shock maybe.
2007-03-08 20:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by vgleason_102301 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going threw the same thing but i think it will be okay just try to iggnore it once the baby is here he will probably be just excited as you
2007-03-08 20:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by tabby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is an a$$hole.
most people aren't ready when they get pregnant/.. hopefully he'll get over it.
2007-03-08 20:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋