existed? Like if they wher killed by someone. Would u just brush it off or would u dwell on there death or would u make a promise ta yourself that u would never love another ever again your heart stays with them?
2007-03-08 12:22:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think anyone would move one like their partner never existed. I would also think it would depend on where you are in your life. For me in my life right now, I would not remarry. I am finacially comfortable and I do not want to have anymore children. I would possibly date but not until my kids were older. If I was in my twenties though and did not have children, I would consider finding someone else.
2007-03-08 12:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by EllD75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you missed an "option" in your list there..
Many times, when someone loses a spouse.. over time, as the wounds heal, they often do find love with another person. The main reason for this, is because they know that while they loved their partner dearly and nobody could ever replace them.. that their lost loved one would want them to move on as well. It's not about acting as if someone "never existed".. it's about moving on with your life, and finding someone to share it with. That in no way means that the spouse would ever be forgotten or loved any less.
While many people still feel that it is somehow a disloyalty to find love with another, after their spouse passes away.. it's really up to the individual. Many couples discuss things of this nature, long before anything ever happens. It's a very good idea to know how your partner feels with this topic, so you don't ever have to wonder, if God forbid you should lose them... and then again meet someone who may be special to you.
It's not about one love replacing another. It's about finding peace, and moving on with your life.
2007-03-08 20:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's very difficult. I believe that God brought my husband and I together and I believe in eternal life. I'm not sure what that eternal life is like and how it works if you have been married more than once. My husband and I take marriage very seriously and I feel it is bigger than us.
I haven't been in that situation and I can't honestly say what I would do. I hope to never face that decision, but also hope I would know what was right if I was there.
I would not judge anyone faced with that challenge. Only they, in their hearts, know what is right.
2007-03-08 21:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was a widower. He did not just brush off her death, nor did he, what you call "dwell" on it either. He mourned her death and tried his best to take care of his family. He didn't start to date for close to a year after her death. We got married 4 years after she passed. He still has fond memories, and he tells stories of some of their funnier moments. I don't feel threatened by his memories of her, they shared 27 years together. She wanted him to get on with his life after she passed, she said so herself prior to her death. I don't think anyone would want the surviving spouse to sit and pine away for them forever. Everyone handles things differently, some people have no interest in finding another spouse. Nothing wrong with it either way.
2007-03-08 20:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would take time to heal and you probably always love them in your heart. But I wouldn't go through the rest of my life not loving anyone ever again I don't think. You have to move on eventually otherwise you just end up a mess.
2007-03-08 20:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by kws504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never say that I would never fall in love again as I can't predict my future,but I could defiantly say I couldn't just forget about my husband that easily as he has been apart of my life for nearly 17 years,the 17 years best years of my life and we have 3 children together and no man could ever truly replace their Da.
2007-03-08 22:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i got a lobotomy to remove my ability to remember people places events. the more time you spent on someone emotionally...the more difficult they are to forget....you cant actually forget someone like that. for example...if you live with someone for say 10 years and you spend only a few hours actually talking/emotion/experience per week
and one person you spend 5 years with for an average of few hours a day actually talking/emotion/experience
just a theory...but one might think conclude by storage of memory that the second person will be carried longer in your heart
memories of someone that are further in the past of course are topped on by newer and current memories. something like that.
I think too much! lol
2007-03-08 20:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something were to happen to my husband I do not think I would ever have another relationship. I have given myself completely to him and him alone. I don't think I could love another. SO, I would keep my heart with him.
2007-03-09 05:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would grieve for the loss of them in my life, then I would move on. Their memory would always be with me, but life is for the living.
2007-03-08 20:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of my friend who has deceased partner need again and most of the reason is their sexual needs.
for me, i will focus to my children. i will enjoy myself except any sexual actual activity and other relationship. i'm only contented to one relationship.
this is not just love but a pledge to god's sacrament.
i hope everybody understand of me. thanks
2007-03-08 20:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by PG_13 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋