I notice ppl don't seem to have an interest in me to become my friend, or they don't seem keen on continuing the conversation...I have lots of conversational roadblocks as well...
Does anyone know how I can deal with this difficulty with talking to ppl?
2007-03-08 12:20:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You obv. are shy and i know many ppl who are really quite nice but just too shy and it is almost like a challenge to talk to them. The best way for you to start a friendship are to ask some general questions about themselves (be careful you dont do it job interview style) such as do you watch sports? what are your hobbies? perhaps if you overhear someone talking about a tv show you might like just jump in and say something like i love that show did u see last nights episode. you really just need to try and be open to people. break down that conversational wall that you have put up and push yourself out into the world. (just make sure you arent being fake in the process)
2007-03-08 12:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Susan D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax, and not try too hard. A person can tell when you are uncomfortable by your body language. You can scare a person away by being too nervous. Speaking, asking a person how they are doing is a good ice-breaker. Just get in the habit of speaking to people that you come across, and eventually it will become easier to hold conversations. The more people you come in contact with the easier it will become.
2007-03-16 02:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by berrymya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are too reserved. People want to have friends that would talk to them with confidence, perhaps you are shy and that is why they stop putting an effort in trying to know you better. You need to open up and listen to them whenever they are talking to you. If you do that you'll have lots of friends in no time!!
2007-03-08 20:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a conversational problem also, i usually dont go out get drunk kiss someone's boyfriend and start some drama, so i usually dont have anything to talk about so i talk about all kind of bull crap, which dont really make a lot of sense
so i dont know maybe u need to be more adventures...
2007-03-16 19:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by DesiGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be u r too open in the begining or tat u r dominating or u talk something out of the way ...but i would say tat u have not met a friend of ur wavelength so search till u find one all the best
2007-03-15 05:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by tamanaahamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check yourself,,,think of things you ought to change,,how do you look like when you dress up?do you smell good/fresh all the time?Are you neat?if everything is ok then maybe all you need is enough confidence to have a conversation with anyone...And ask GOD to help you overcome your troubles
2007-03-16 09:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are trying too hard. Just say whatever is on your mind at the moment as long as it is something that people can relate to, which most things are.
2007-03-08 20:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Benji 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm, maybe your shy & you dont know it???? Just relax and have confidence in your self. I used to have the same problem, Just be yourself and eventually you'll find someone who wants to be friends with you! good luck!
2007-03-08 20:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by ThatoneGirl90 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start asking something, then start sharing something based on your question
2007-03-08 20:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by jhust b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋