my parents moved me to flordia from NJ. I loved new jersey and i had to give up my best friend of 13 years. I am 14 years old. Please give me some effective ideas on how to convince my parents to move home. I hear them saying how much they miss home but they have not done anything.
2007-03-08 12:16:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
GIVE UP!! Your parents are not going to move back just because you want them to, I'm sure they thought long and hard about deciding to move, and they obviously think its the best thing for your family.
You can keep in touch wiht your friend and it wont take long to make new friends. Plus in a few years you can go wherever you want.
If you try to make your parents move back, then I think thats selfish, and you would be acting like a little brat, and you have not opened your mind and given your new home a chance to grow on you.
Chances are with your friend, you would have grown up in a few years and grown apart a bit anyway.
2007-03-08 12:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by zimba 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there's probably a lot more going on then them just choosing to up and move 2,000 miles away. Did they get better jobs? Do they have family closer now?
Ultimately, as much as you all might miss NJ, if it's not an option to move back, then the most you can do is to try not to focus so much on what you can do to get back there- you'll expend energy that could otherwise be put toward making your situation now work better for you.
I know how hard it is- between the ages of 12 and 18, I moved over 5 times. So I know it's not an easy transition. Just try to understand that your parents are making choices that they believe will make your life better, even if you can't see it right now or don't understand why it's happening, one day, when you look back, you'll see things a lot differently. Hindsight is always 20/20, and once you're a parent yourself, you'll understand why your parents make the choices they do a whole lot better then you might now.
I hope things work out for you. In NJ or Florida, you just have to make the best of what you've got.
Best of luck!
2007-03-08 12:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by beccalynn14bb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that your parents know how much you miss NJ, and there seem to be things that they miss about it, too. I know that when or if it is in the best interests of your family to move back that they will. If it is not in the best interests of the family, then they will stay in FL.
I've lived in a few different places in my life; some I've loved and some I've hated, but all of them have had good things and bad things. Maybe there are more bad things than good things about your life right now, but please try to concentrate on the positives and be thankful for them. Be friendly and happy at school so you can make new friends. I know that this will not replace the old best friend you had, but it will help fill the social needs in your life. Try as hard as you can to make things work here, and that really will help. I'm sorry you are so unhappy right now, dear, but this time in your life won't last forever.
2007-03-08 14:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ain't gonna happen. I'm sorry you miss your friend but you are part of a family and your parents made a decision based on what they thought would be best for all of you.
Keep in touch with your friend through IM and email and in the mean time, find a nice volunteer job to keep you busy as you get to know your new home and meet new people. When a school vacation comes along, invite your NJ friend down for a visit. Don't make this harder than it has to be.
2007-03-08 12:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by wormsforbait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They must have had a good reason to move from New Jersey to Florida: (just the weather and the lower cost of living would be two reasons I can think of). It's hard to move; it's hard to move back. So with IM and e-mail, you can pretty much stay in touch with your friend. Why not invite your friend to visit the next school vacation? And summer, too? Maybe your parents would like knowing that your friend was helping you to settle in the new area and I'll bet it would be fun, too! I know your friend would like it if you sent pictures.
2007-03-12 11:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's not really up to you. You can tell them you want to move, and they can sympathise. However, it's not as easy as you might think to move back home. Were your parents transferred by the people for whom they work? Did extenuating circumstances force you to move?
It sounds as if you really miss your best friend. Perhaps you could try writing. It's a good thing we have the Internet! There's email, IM, and myspace. You can use any of those. Perhaps in the somewhat distant future you can visit your friend, or have him/her visit you.
Best of luck to you in Florida!
2007-03-08 15:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by thereligiousrightisneither 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to them. It depends on how much money is involved and other stuff like that. You can't just click your heels and be home.
2007-03-08 12:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what id get my a** outta new york anyday to move to florida
2007-03-08 15:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away to your friend in Florida
2007-03-08 13:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by speedy >>> 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋