what should i do? my 20yr old daughter is cutting her wrist all the time cuz of her ex bf doesnt talk?

Answer 1

Oh this is horrible....i had a friend that would do that all the time. They call them cutters. its very serious i think the best thing you can do other than get her to a doctor as soon as you possibly can is let her know that you love her and that you dont want her to do this and possibly end up dying.

Let her know that you are there for her and hurting herself over a guy isnt going to help it only causes more pain. No man is worth your tears or pain and the one who is wont cause you to cry or be in pain. Love her unconditionally! good luck and may god keep her safe!

Answer 2

1-800-DONT-CUT is a hotline for cutters

Mental Health Info Source 1-800-447-4474 Mental Health Resources and Information
National Institute of Mental Health 1-888-ANXIETY Mental Health Resources and Information

SUICIDE PREVENTION
Suicide & Crisis Hotline [phone] Help for Troubled Teens
National Hope Line Network 1-800-784-2433 Suicide Prevention
SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT IT TO
Talk Zone 1-800-475-TALK Peer Counselors
Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens
Teen Hot Line 1-800-747-8336 Hot Line For Troubled Teens

VOICES In Action, Inc. 1-773-327-1500
Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline
National Crisis Line 1-800-334-4357 Crisis Help Line
National Youth Crisis Hotline [phone] Youth Crisis Hotline

Answer 3

pray and take her to the counselor to get her to understand she is not responsible for her boyfriends behavior.

cutting is about attempting to translate emotional pain into physical pain because physical pain is recognizeable - she can understand why she hurts when she cuts, but not why they are no longer together.

Do what you can to understand the disorder. You can start with this link. But also let her know that you are there for her, that self mutilation wont change the situation. I'm not sure whether or not you should try to bring the bf back into the sitatuation. talk to tthe professional about that.

God bless

Answer 4

Stress build up is right. I was cutting since i was 13, im now 19 stopped last year.

I would cut with razors, sharpened plastic, and even burned my self. HOw i seen it was the pain i was having was too much for me to handle so to over come that I would cut or burn myself.

I try to explain it to people who dont understand. The way i can explain is like this
When a person is stressed they wil do something to calm them self down work out, do a hobby or some who do others like smoking or drinking. I use smoking alot as an example. You smoke to calm your nerves, Thats how it came out for me. I cut because i was mad or stressed, every small episode of anger or stress, even depressed states i would cut.

With her being 20 you cant do much cause she is an adult, just get people together and support her, help her kick it. Do things with her get her out of the house and her mind off the guy. Show her how much it hurts you and her friends by cutting. Trust me alot will help her. \

Have her talk to others who use to cut. Thats where people who can relate to her understand her more. Those who cant understand really dont help much, so what i would suggest is research and talk to those who cut or have cutt to help you more understand and come around to helpng her.

Answer 5

Wow. Ok, I'm only 15 so you may chose to ignore this post completly. Just love her. All she needs is someone who cares about her alot. When I was 14, I was a cutter and it landed me in a mental hospital. Just becuase she's cutting, dosn't mean she wants to kill herself. It's a release for built up stress.

Maybe you two can rent chick flicks and have popcorn and chocolate one night. She just needs a little fun. Does she have any friends she trusts alot? Ask them to help too. They may not know what she's doing. But I'm sure they care.

Answer 6

In a nutshell...you need to get your daughter some professional help. This is called "cutting," self mutalation due to feelings of lonliness, insecurity, and all around feeling miserable about yourself. Calling the boyfriend isn't going to make her stop.

Answer 7

she is only doing it for the attention because she is not getting from the one she cared for for so long - so make sure u gve her all the help and support she needs and get her some help - even tho she will never go that extra step to end her life there will be a time when she goes too deep or slips and thats what u want

Answer 8

She sounds like she is dealing with depression. Take her away for a few week on a vacation somewhere far away. It helps when you get away to a new place, it makes you realize that things aren't as bad as they seem. And that there are a trillion people in the world with way more problems than a boyfriend...(hunger, disease, WAR)
I used to be depressed, and when my mom took us to Africa, I realized how blessed we are, and that we (Americans) get depressed over things that shouldn't matter. We only have 1 life to live, so we should live it right.
She should also go to church, because that helped me, go to the prayer room with her...she needs Jesus !
God Bless
Gina

Answer 9

Counseling. She needs some help with this and you need to be the one to care enough to get it for her. Now is not the time to be her best friend but her parent. She is going to be mad at you for getting her help, but in the long run she will appreciate it. Don't wait until it is to late and she succeed in hurting herself. Call for help now. Best of luck.

Answer 10

get her help!! do what you can to get the ex out of mind!! tell her that there's no reason that he should still have power over her - even her mind....need more advice? email me at [e-mail]. talk to you later....