curious about what to do when recovering from csection?

Question

i have a question, if i have to get a c-section, afterward, when im recovering, what am i suppose to do with my 3 year old since i take care of her alone everyday. shes about 40 lbs (shes not fat, shes really tall for her age) anyway im worried cuz i dont know what ill do about her while im recovering. the father isnt an option, hes not around. my mother will go back to work after a day or so, she cant afford to stay off work that long. and my daughter cant start preschool til august and my baby is due in a month, i cant afford daycare for the time being either. does any one have any tips or anything because i might have to have a csection due to the fact that its very possible i have preeclampsia and also because of the pelvic pains ive been having. just let me know and no stupid answers please. thanks

Answer 1

Well, if you have no other options like friends or neighbors, you just have to do the best you can. Try talking to your daughter and explaining to her that mommy is sick and needs her to be on best behavior. Include her in helping you care for the baby. Try everything you can not to have to pick her up, but you gotta do what you gotta do. Being a military wife i totally understand this, because sometimes you just don't know ANYBODY! Talk to your doctor too. Maybe there is daycare assistance that you dont know about. For example, they have something called CCMS here in texas. You may have to work to get it, i dont remember. Doesnt hurt to ask though.

Answer 2

I had a c-section with my daughter about three years ago and I got to come home after two days of being in the hospital. You will just have to take it very easy and maybe invest in some movies that she really enjoys for a few days. It isn't as bad as people make it out to be but it is no walk in the park. If you just get up and move as soon as they let you and keep moving then you should do just fine the thing is not to let the pain take over. They will give you pain medications but make sure you can take them and still care for your little ones. If they are too strong then ask for something else that will help. I am planning on a repeat c-section on the twentieth of this month and this is my thing too. My hubby is great but he will have to return back to work soon after I get home from the hospital because I too have a soon to be three year old and she is mommy's girl and no body can do anything for her but mommy. So I plan on taking it one day at a time and remember to keep my self moving.

Answer 3

I had preeclampsia and pelvic pain too, but I had no other children. I don't know what I would have done without my husband. He took off work, he carried the baby, and ran all the errands.

I don't know where you live, but in some cities there are services.....one is called "Friends of the Family"....they provide general help with anything. I see you can't afford daycare, so that might be too expensive too.

I would really really recommend that you get your nurse to send in the hospital's social worker so they can hook you up with some help.

Do you have any friends that can help? You can promise them free babysitting services later in the year, to pay them back for babysitting your 3year old now.

I live in KS, and would be more than happy to help you, but I assume you don't live near here.

I am trying to conceive right now again, and worry...even with a husband, how I will be able to recuperate with what will be a 2 year old daughter. Luckily, we have a fantastic babysitter, but can't really afford her either!

Answer 4

Try to get someone within your family to help you even if it is your just say 16 year old cousin. You will need some help in getting around and plus with your 3 year old but do you know my mom had 2 c-sections and did not have any help at all plus she had like 5 other kids home at the time (she had 7 kids) and our dad was always working so it was just her.

One of my sisters and i are 17 months apart and she said she did not have any help with the two of us and we both were in diapers.

But i had a c-section and i know how painful it is and i know i had help both from my husband and mom, so i wouldn't know what to do if i had another child while that all went on.
Get someone, anyone within your family or even a friend.
Go stay at your mom's house. Good luck!