How can the fear of doing sex can be overcome?

Answer 1

U will overcome the fear if u r doing it legally.. with ur wife. If u do something wrong then ur conscience will prick u.

Answer 2

I think the first thing that should be done is try to find out why it is feared. Whether it be the physical, or the emotion side (or both) Then the fear can be attempted to be overcome. Also talking to a good friend, someone who won't judge you, (some people can be cruel), it might make it easier to overcome.

Just don't let the fear control you.

Answer 3

Sexophobia is a fear of the opposite sex, not of sex itself.
That is not what you asked about, but it is worth considering and distinguishing from your question.

At different ages, and between the two sexes, there can be different reasons for fear. The healthiest feeling for a young person is curiousity, and some caution, but neither anxiety to do it ASAP, nor fear of ever doing it.

Fear of the act, "doing sex', is a matter of performance anxiety (will I do it right? will s/he be happy?) or of morality or other consequences. You must identify just what it is that you fear--social embarrassment, possible pregnancy, not knowing what to do, and like that.

For women, the fears might be grounded in pregnancy or loss of reputation. Also, unless she knows the male well, there is the natural fear of being hurt by a sadistic or cruel man.

For men, the fear may be that he cannot perform (erectile potency), or not long enough, or in some other way may be unsatisfactory to his partner.

For a lot of people, moderate alcohol is the way to dispense with the normal anxiousness.

Answer 4

Fall in love. Sex is not like pie that is enjoyed with everyone. It's much more complex than that. TV and the movies and our pop culture teach young folks that something is wrong with you if you don't like it anywhere, anytime, with anyone. That is utterly ridiculous, and a travesty to anyone who buys it.

But when you are in love with a person desire blooms as beautifully as a rose. You will begin to think of this person day and night, and desire will grow with every day, and although it will seem as though time has stopped when you are near to confessing your love, that's not exactly what happens. It's more like time just doesn't matter any more, because you feel you have everything you will ever need, or want, in your beloved. Time just won't matter, and neither will any other inhibition you may have otherwise.

Believe in it. Look for it. And settle for nothing less. Shun anyone who would tell you otherwise. They are fools. Waiting is the best thing a person can ever do for themselves.

Answer 5

by finding someone you can trust to have it do it with in a very clean safe way. Once you have it a few times, the fear will go away and you will want it more. If it is good sex, rock your world sex. It is better if it is with someone you love, or have at least feelings for. My first few times were terrible, but sometimes it takes the right person with some talent in foreplay, and techniques that are not too fast or rush. Take your time, do it right.

Answer 6

If you fear sex with someone in an illegal way, you must be proud. It is not fear; it is a VIRTUE.


To have sex with a legally wedded wife, start enjoying her finer qualities, the humour in her, her innocence, know what she likes to talk about and also where she likes to be touched. The more you touch her, the more she will love to be. Never mind about her false objections.

You touch her more, your confidence to love her will erect . Every time you have sex with her, it will be a new experience, even the thousandth time. The thousand new experiences of sex. God is great. Be happy and safe.

Answer 7

Geez... you make it sound like a chore. The only people that are afraid of sex are virgins and people that have been sexually abused. It takes years to get over such a hurdle. You just have to either see a professional or by doing the act itself with the one you love/like/want to do. Experience and time heals all wounds and gives confidence.

Answer 8

That's a really odd way of formulating a sentence. :)

Anyway, fear of anything tends to subside with exposure. Learn more about sex. Practice sex more often, if you are so inclined. Explore sexual alternatives until you are comfortable with the full experience.

And keep in mind, sex should be a healthy, positive thing; not cause for anxiety.

Answer 9

the person who is not well experienced in sex , impriority complex is one of the fear of doing sex.because, the sex teaching tools (in younger minds ie. sex books , porno sites , etc...) develops the point , the long penis, big breast , abnormal **** time are essential for doing sex. but its not.
so , overcome the fear, learn real things about real time sex from openly speaking experienced or doctors.

Answer 10

Start associating with the opposite sex more until you are comfortable. The casual association should help ease the tension. Don't be so concerned about when the sexual encounter will, happen, just let it happen on it's own. Half the battle is getting them to like you, the rest is easy. Don.t concern yourself with being nervous because your partner is just as nervous(and inexperienced) as you.