have no sex drive?? help?

Question

i have been married for 2 years now and i don't have the drive to have sex. i love my husband very much, but i occasionaly have the drive, my husband and i would fight because of this, i want to have sex with my husband, he does everything right but the drive is not there. is something wrong with me?? i am not on any medications?? serious answers plz

Answer 1

do some things that boost your libido such as excersizing and eating healthier....also try introducing porn to your sex life

Answer 2

I understand completely! My husband and I don't really get into arguments about anything but this. It's not a matter of not enjoying sex...it's more just....well...too tired all the time, headaches (real ones). I don't have to explain it to you, cause you already know. The only advice I can really give you is to mentally prepare yourself. Start thinking about it first thing in the morning, and by it I mean the actual event...try to picture it in your mind. Do this throughout the day. It will mentally prepare you...to where the desire is completely there. I have been married 6 years (today actually) and we have 3 kids. So of course I am naturally exhausted. I am also under the understanding that women don't hit their peak until 30 or something....still a few years to go for me. Well, I hope this helps some. You could consult a doctor if you choose to, they might be able to help you further. Well, good luck...and if you find anything easier that helps you, please let me know!!

Answer 3

Both men and women have wide ranges of libidos, special desires, limitations, and all the other things that make up the complicated activity of human intimacies.
In a perfect world husbands and wives adjust to each other in all of the things that they do together.
In the everyday world, some adjustments never occur; most often the differences are about 'bedroom' activity.
A person can have a 'low-powered' libido and still not mind doing it without enthusiasm.
Just about the least intense activity is giving a man a BJ.
And, most all men enjoy having that done for them.
The person doing it for the guy doesn't need to swallow the ejaculant, maybe even pull off when he starts to ejaculate.
If the possibility of getting even a taste of semen bothers you,
pull off when you read the signs of his beginning ejaculation.
If 'eating it' is okay, that can add something to his satisfaction.
As a bi, when I do a guy, I'm a swallower.
I also swallow when a gal gives me a shot.
Then, rimming's pretty good too but I usually do that to warm my gal or guy up.
Whoever I do needs to be clean.

Answer 4

I am not sure what you mean by sex drive but from what I know you can easily go to the OBGYN and find out if it is something in your diet or hormones. Sometimes birth control, stress and other things happen to us woman that we can not control. I am sure you love your husband because you are looking for answers for the problem.

And on another note maybe you need a vacation some place romantic with all the extra romantic things like candle light baths, candle light dinners, motion lotion for after the bath, desserts like strawberries and chocolate. Another honeymoon sort of speak and see if you can relax and let that drive come to life. Or vitamins for energy!

Hope this helps you out!

Answer 5

I don't have an answer for your sex drive problem. However, I wanted to give you some comfort to let you know that you are not alone. My wife and her best friend both have a very low or no sex drives. Both at first, like you, thought there was something wrong with them. Perhaps some past trauma caused this or something. To this day that drive has not increased and it has been several years. I don't believe that the lack of drive has anything to do with love or lack of love. They do say that women reach their sexual peak at a much later age then men do. Men hit their peak at like 16 where women hit theirs in the mid 30's. So, to answer your question, I don't believe there is anything wrong with you.

Answer 6

Hormones will help to increase your sex drive. See your doctor, or by estrogen and progesterone cream at the health food store (you have to take both for it to work). Good luck, some people just have a very low sex drive, while others have an extremely high sex drive. It's in the genes!

Answer 7

You are absolutely right. Its common with many girls after marriage. Particularly when you a child, it is more common. Nothing to worry for your health or so. If that creates problems between you both, thats normal too, because we also have the same situation.

My only advise is "Never leave him hungry for more than 4 or 5 days. Even if you do not like, please allow him atleast twice a week. Because, most of the men need sex, not just for fun, but for relaxing their work tension, etc. If you feel that he really needs, offer him, even if you do not like. That saves lots of friction between the couple, though you both love each other. Understand, men does not want sex, but need more cuddling, hugging and care than a woman needs. The need comes out more when they are more tensed and like kids, most of the men can not express them clearly. Try to cuddle / hug / kiss more when they really need you. It truely mean that they need women to show their more affection. Thats a simple formula.

Dont worry. This is a common problem in most of the houses.

Answer 8

Maybe try taking vitamins...there are certain vitamins that you can take to help increase your libido! Also, try going for walks or some sort of mild exercises. This releases endorphins in the brain that makes you feel good and may make your drive increase as well. If all else fails, get an adult movie or some other "marital aids". Good luck!

Answer 9

Please go see a doctor it may be an illness that medication can help kind of like erectile dysfunction but for a woman not a man. They do make a pill that is like Viagra for women. Good luck. also ginseng will help increase the sex drive and can be bought where ever vitamins and supplements are sold. Good Luck

Answer 10

you need to spice up the marriage.see if that helps. like say when your husband comes home from work you could have a nice romantic dinner cooked for him and dress sexy and after dinner cuddle on the couch and share with each othe like say when u two first met and when you fell in love. how special it was and then kiss and hold each other and then take it from there you never know where it will end up maybe in the bedroom lets hope so. good luck

Answer 11

none of us could say, it could be a number of thing. you should really make an appointment with your doctor or gynecologist, so they can perform a full evaluation and see if there's anything that could be impairing your ability to have a healthy sex life.

also you should consider therapy and marriage counseling, as you could have some repressed issues with your sexuality or your something with your body that could be preventing you from desiring sex.

there are a number of different things early menopause, depression, stress, insomnia, etc...

contact your doctor. see a therapist. and try to convince your husband to attend marriage counseling for the time being. at least so you can put the arguing to rest.