I'm 12 and i cut?

Question

it helps relieve stress, I'm always sad, I'm ugly, fat, and I just can't stop, my friends don't know, the only time I'm at peace is when i see the blood coming from my arm. It only started as just wanting a way to help myself. Bc my friend did it and said she felt better so every day after school we would go behind the school and cut, now she moved away. but I'm still sad/ depressed. I sometimes cut myself 10 or 11 times a day. And i just feel good. My friends I have now, well i guess I act happy at school but the keyword is act, All day i just can't wait for passing period so i can go to the bathroom and get that razor near me. Is it so wrong to cut

Answer 1

please find someone to talk to about this little one, someone you trust. please

Answer 2

Cutting is like you said, a way to relieve the emtional stress you are feeling, but from what you say, if you want to stop cutting yourself and to feel better both physically and mentally about yourself, then you should shouldn't think too much on your problems, but rather start acting on changing them. If you are over weight, then start exercising once every few days.
If you are, as you say, ugly, then think about why you would even bother to entertain such thoughts, or listen to other people if they tell you the same thing?

I think you should pay close attention to the word you used several times, "act" and work on changing things you don't like about yourself, instead of letting your emotions get the better of you and slip in a routine like what you are not just to feel good about yourself, otherwise you won't live a happy life, and depending on how well you treat the razor cuts, wherever you have them, you could find them getting infected and face the real possibility of amputation from gangrene.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I am a reiki/druid councillor or psychic council or for a lack of a better way to explain it. I can channel advice for other people with problems, unfortunately I can't channel for myself. Anyway, I'm 28 and I have recently started cutting too. I use anything I can get my hands on. It's all good and well all these people saying go to a council or or get help but what happens when no one wants to help or they want money before they help? Maybe it is different where you are, so if there are genuine people who you can go to for help, go. You must get out of this cutting thing, trust me it puts great strain on relationships.

Let me say this to you. "Yes it feels like it helps at the time, it is an escape from the emotional pain that you are feeling at that time but tell me, does it solve the problem that is causing you that emotional pain? It's a way of hiding not a way of finding a solution."

You see I should listen to my own channelled advice. If only it was so simple for me. You are only 12, you still have a lot to learn and a long life to live.
Good luck

Answer 4

Doing this can make you very ill. The blades can give you terrible infections. You need to find an adult you trust to talk to: they won't judge you. A lot of people go through this, and it's hard, but with a little help from the people who care about you, you will find healthier ways to relieve stress.
Please post this in the mental health section because a lot of trained therapists and other people who really understand these things answer there, and you can get better help. Please talk to a school counselor or teacher; they will understand, and nobody is going to be mad at you. Go to this website now and write down the numbers in your area: http://suicidehotlines.com/ Even if you aren't thinking about suicide, keep this number with you so you can call when you feel like hurting yourself: They can help with that, too.
Thank you for telling us, that shows a lot of strength. Take care of yourself - you are a wonderful human being and there are people who love you very much.

Answer 5

There are safer, more long-term ways of dealing with emotional pain. A counselor might be able to suggest some. Cutting isn't going to make the pain go away for very long. It will continue to come back again and again until you screw up and kill yourself. I'd really suggest finding other ways, like hobbies. Physical activity and a good idea can really help combat depression.

Answer 6

I think that you should talk to someone you trust about this. I think that you have some emotional isssues that need to be address. When I was 12, I was called ugly. I would get called that so much I would cry, but I would look in the mirror everyday I would say I was not ugly, and wrote ten thing that I like about my self. I think you should try that. I mean it does not have to be looks. I could be something you are good at or something you are interested in.

Answer 7

I know how good it feels, i used to cut, it really is like an addiction, the same as drugs, or alcoholism, but you're doing damage to your body. I think you should find someone to talk to about this. Sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger than to a friend. Next time you feel like cutting, why don't you send me an email instead ([e-mail]). I know you find it hard to believe, but I know what you're going through.

Answer 8

Yes, honey, it is wrong and unhealthy and self-destructive to cut yourself, and deep down you know it, or you wouldn't be here pouring your heart hoping someone will rescue you.

But the truth is, you have to rescue yourself. You have to take that first step of admitting you need help, and asking for help. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help, and a lot of strength to commit to yourself that you're going to try to find a way to be happy again. You might not be able to do it alone, but there are plenty of people ready to help you.

Please please please go to a school counselor or teacher or dean right now and tell them you cut and need help. Hurting yourself is not the answer - it might give a temporary satisfaction, but wouldn't it be better not to need it in the first place?

Answer 9

your words worry me terribly.

i was neglected / molested for years as a child of ten and i felt cursed and ugly.

then i grew up and a wonderful metamorphosis happened.

i got to be me.

there is nothing wrong with you.

please stop hurting yourself.

life gets better as you grow older,
especially if you read lots of books and get smarter as you grow older.

forgive me feeling i have to explain that i have no interest in sick things like sex with children.

you are innocent and young.

i am a 60 yr old american man living in spain.

please give a copy of this email and my email address: [e-mail] to your parents, or any resposible adult, or a trusted friend before you write to me.

perhaps if we talked a bit you might learn to be happy just being you, and perhaps you might learn to be interested in the rest of the huge and wonderful world out there.

please take care of yourself.

best wishes

hola = hello ( in spanish ) ( the h is silent )
donde esta = where is
felicidad = happiness
cerca = near
pronto = soon

no te precupes = no you worry ( like preoccupy )

all will be well


if you don't want to communicate with me that's fine,

but please find an adult somewhere that you can talk to

people can also be very nice and kind

you must grow up to be one of those

and show the world how to be kind and happy

Answer 10

I think that you know that hurting yourself isn't a healthy way to deal with your problems. It doesn't solve them and it's an artificial way to feel in control.

It's not so much about whether it's wrong or right; it's just not safe and it doesn't get to the core of your problems. You want to find a way to cope that works and your sense of control needs to come from inside, not outside.

Please seek help; try talking to a counselor.

Best wishes.

Answer 11

Cutting is a way to bring the pain on the inside to the outside, as a form of balance. The pain on the inside needs to be treated. I suggest you talk with your school counselor and go from there. Depression is very real and very difficult, but it is treatable. Please seek professional counseling and if you are scared or worried, feel free to email me to talk.