Am I developing slowly?

Question

Am I developing slowly?
It seems that lately my friends have been becoming different from me lately. I sit with them at lunch and all that they talk about is what party they were at, whose house is the best to sleep at. They never included me at these parties and that was a little aggravating. Now they are all about partying and drinking. There conversations are all about if they should get drunk before or after the dance. I have absolutely no interest in going out and getting drunk. Is there something wrong with me? Everyone says teens go through a rebellious stage, but that has never come for me? Am I weird?

Answer 1

Not weird at all. Sounds like you were raised to be less of a rebel which is better. You are better than them. Stay with it. Be yourself. You'll get in less trouble that way. Less chance of ruining your life by mistakes.

Answer 2

No you are not weird. I never got into drink either, even though it was all my friends were doing. Not everyone needs to go through that stage to figure out who they are.

What I did was I went out and made new friends who liked to do some of the things that I liked to do, but I didnt abandon my old friends either. This worked out pretty well because when my friends were out drinking and partying, I would be out doing something I liked to do with people I liked to be around, but I was always there when my other friends got drunk and thought they were pregnant or arested or made a really big fool of themselves or got caught on camera having sex among other things. Some people had a problem with other people i was hanging out with, but they werent anyone i would have been friends with long term anyway.

Now I am in college and have a bunch of friends who aren't all drunk, (not saying that they never went through that phase), and I really enjoy them. Hope this helps!

Answer 3

no, you're not weird, and dont let the pressure to fit in affect you. What you're talking about is actually a form of peer pressure, although your friends arent holding a bottle to your face and talking you into drinking, you feel left out if you dont drink.

If partying isnt your scene, thats fine. Go out with them, but dont drink or do drugs. You can still have fun and participate, just dont drink. Or you could find some new friends that are more interested in things that you like to do. So when your partying friends start talking about their plans for the weekend, you know you have somewhere thats drug and alcohol free to have fun.

Answer 4

All this partying and drinking is a way to keep themselves in the loop. You don't want to be follower, be a leader. It seems like they are having the fun, but seriously it isn't, someone always get hurt. You need to find friends with interest that you have and not this drinking issues. I am very proud of you. Drinking only leads to trouble. Spend your time getting ready for the rest of your life. fun will find you when you find people with interest that are the same as yours. Best of luck.

Answer 5

first off, no, you are NOT weird! You are your own person.... and you don't have to be like them. You are unique... and there is not a single person EXACTLY like you in this world! That automatically makes you special. It doesn't matter what they are doing. Besides... partying and getting drunk has it's drawbacks.... you end up doing stupid things or saying stupid things... and the bad thing is that you don't remember them... but others around you do and will. So just be your own person. Stick by your guns... it doesn't matter what they are doing... what matters is what you are doing. And what you are doing right now is being smart and using good judgement. Good for you!!! :o) Hope this helps!

Answer 6

Not everyone goes through a "rebelious" stage. I say you should get new friends. They seem like a bad influence. It's a good thing that you don't want to get drunk because it could kill you. There is nothing wrong with you. Unless you want to get killed, arested, pregnant, or in a serious accident, stay away from drinking and such.

Answer 7

No, you're a good kid, I was that way too. I never went to parties or drank in high school. You might change your mind in college, but I'm sure if you do you will be very responsible about it. I never really rebelled against my parents at all when I was a teen, and plenty of people are like that.

Answer 8

consider yourself lucky that you never got sucked into it.
just think that when they are out getting drunk... they raise their risk way uup for DYING. and your safe just hanging out playing a board game with the fam. some people choose to drink others dont. you dont and thats really level headed and a smart decision. seriously give yourself credit for that acheivement. you aren't developing slow your actually developing faster if you choose not to drink. its a mature decision and i know what its like for friends or even other people to talk about that stuff nd think why am i not included? but its not you its them. so id say try to find a group of girls that have interests like you and take the initiative to invite them out for a safe friday. instead of hearing all these bad influences around you. your not at all slow your actually wise. so if you want to drink and be stupid... join em. but if you want to live then just be yourself. your not weird at all. i actually think that if you dont go through that stage lucky for you and you should never consider yourself weird. bc what is weird really? how is not wanting to go and get drunk weird? you get alot of credit. dont join them. =)

Answer 9

no, there is nothing wrong with you. Good for you! I don't drink either or smoke, I mean I rarely drink I only do if I'm at home and I ask permission and everything. Its ok to go out and have fun and go dancing but just because your friends get drunk it doesn't mean you have to drink you can have fun with out alcohol and still be friends with them.

Answer 10

I'm 34 years old and married with a child and so far I have yet to go through a rebellious stage! LOL

Look at it this way: You're not making your parents go gray before their time!

Answer 11

No, in fact, teens like you are very rare! Most teens want to go out and act like a bunch of idiots. You don't. It's the opposite; THEY are the ones who are developing slowly! I am the exact same way as you; I am not interested in what most teens today seem to think are awesome.