Ladies, here is your forum. What do you want men to know about women? What sets you off about our ignorance?

Question

If you have seen the Mel Gibson movie, What Women Want, you know exactly what im talking about. This is your forum and I cant speak for everyone, but im listening. Following the format and spirit of the movie, its a simple question really? Whatever that communication hurdle, unfair conclusion or dimensia you think we have with who you are, what your about or what you need to be self actualized, the question is a simple one really...what do we need to know to make it happen for you. No adult, spam or pun intended here. Im just very curious whats on your mind and perhaps i can learn something in the process. Thanks much and have a great day!

just to clarify here...im not speaking for anyone but me...im offering you a forum and asking for your opinoin...i make no conclusion about men except that they probably dont know what you want them to know...that in fact is the purpose of the question.

Answer 1

I really don't think it is that simple. I am a 'preppy' girl who grew up as a bit of a tomboy, and I have dated a man for five years who is truly my polar opposite (loves metal, has been a machinist, student, construction worker, and now a tattoo artist) yet he provided me with exactly what I wanted. We had a rough start, but he really showed that regardless of what he was doing if i really needed him he would be there, I have never once worried about him cheating on me - he hasn't slept with a million girls and verbally and personally demonstrated that he did not like the typical *hot* playboy types and that I was all he needed. As a result I have been totally comfortable with him going out with some of his friends who are girls to bars til they close and other situations. Since i've known him he really hasn't had more than $10 to his name, yet he always found simple yet meaningful ways to make special occasions special - mostly just by spending quality time with me. So maybe what women look for (depending on where they are in their own lives) is a bit simple, we want to be respected and treated as a lady, feel that we are special and not going to be just another notch on his bedpost, that we can trust him to be loyal, that he is dependable, that he will one day make a good parent (yes we do look at those kind of things too), and that he has a good relationship with his family and accepts ours.

Answer 2

Well, I can't speak for everyone or all women....but I am not going to lie.....looks help with the initial attraction, but it is not what keeps us there. A man with kind words.....one who is intelligent but doesn't insult our own intelligence. A man who truly cares about you and who you are and is not self centered or self absorbed. A man that cares for his fellow man. A man who's actions speak louder than his words. Flexibility. Honesty. A partner that works together with the woman to achieve common goals. Romance (not sex all the time). Surprises. Sense of humor. Common interests. Open-mindedness. NO procrastination. I guess I could go on and on, but the bottom line would be be kind, honest and open.....and NEVER yell, scream or procrastinate. Just my thoughts at the moment.....

Answer 3

What I want men to know is that just because we are in love with you doesn't mean we have to forfeit who we are. My favorite saying is "i was Jane long before I became Jon's girlfriend (or Mrs. Jon Jones)". It means that all those things you loved about me while dating/courting are going to remain part of me--my friends, hobbies, yearly girls only get-togethers, etc. It means continuing to show me the respect and courtesy of the beginning of the relationship. Just watch "Mad about You" with Paul Reiser and Helen Hunt---they had the perfect relationship---but it WASN"T perfect!! What makes it perfect is the obvious commitment to each other that shows itself in every decision and/or action they make/do. They are perfect for each other and that;s how it should be.

Hubby and I have been married 8 years and together 12. We are far from perfect but we fit each other well. My strengths compliment his weaknesses and vice versa.

Communicate with us....talk WITH us not AT us. Men are naturally protectors....but resist the urge to "fix" all of our problems. When we tell you an issue or problem we are having at work or with a friend, we just need you to be a sounding board for us to vent. We'll come to the solution on our own. We welcome your suggestions but don't be angry with us if we don't take your advice---even if what we choose to do doesn't work as we had hoped. Talk with us about the weather, the tv show, the kids, your childhood, your life's ambitions, how you see yourself in fifty years, your day dreams, your doctor's appointments,...get the picture?

Oh and one more thing.....manners should always be a part of every relationship---say excuse me when you pass gas or burp.....don't recount every bowel movement for her---its not as fascinating as you may think....chew with your mouth closed.....and use please and thank you just as you would for a total stranger. Becoming one as a couple doesn't void all other courtesies and manners.

Answer 4

Here's a BIG tip for all you guys out there:

If a woman is being irritable (b*tchy), the absolute LAST thing you should suggest is that its PMS. Even if it is. Dont go there. She will never be able to admit it at the time and it will just tick her off.

Answer 5

It annoysme that if a girl doesn't smile or has a bad day its pms if its a guy no one says anything

and we dont all want to get married or have babies

Answer 6

Nothing! I don't know a women who likes a dumb man. Acting or otherwise.

Answer 7

"What sets you off about our ignorance?" the fact that YOU as an individual thinks you can speak for ALL men and label them ALL as being as ignorant as yourself.