Do you believe in the saying " Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me"? I feel like a fool, I let my husband come back into my and our kids life twice. He just left after a year back together. We were together 14 years. But it is really hard to move on after that long together. I know I can't ever let him come back again. He will probablly just end up leaving us again. What do you think?
2007-03-08 10:41:50 · 14 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you on all counts. Yes, it is very hard to move on (it was hard for me even after a 5-year relationship, I can't imagine what it might be like after 14 years and several kids). Yes, it's foolish to hope that his dysfunctional pattern will somehow change next time around. I think you have made a wise decision to keep him at an arm's length from now on. Good luck.
2007-03-08 11:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As he went out the door, I'd said, "Don't let the door hit 'cha where the good Lord split 'cha!" Third time's a charm. Find somebody that will respect you and your children. It's not going to be easy. But the only thing worse than being with that fool for 14 years, is being with him 14 years and 1 day!
2007-03-08 10:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww I feel bad for you, but you know my Momma always said you show me someone in love and I'll show you a fool and she didn't mean that in a bad way she just meant that when your in love "true love" you look for the good and around the bad. Your not a bad person for loving, oh heavens no, your a woman that has found that she CAN love, and you know what else you can and WILL love again. I don't know what the future has written in your book but just stay strong and hopeful, pray and don't be afraid to be YOU, the person that loves with all her heart. Don't let these people tell you it'd be stupid to take him back either cuz people DO and can change, but that's up to you, your heart, and good sense to decide. Blessings to you!
2007-03-08 10:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by WOW U all make me feel normal! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't let him come back. Especially not so easily. Make him huff it out on his own for a while. Shame on him for doing that to your family! He needs some counseling.
2007-03-08 10:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to get a divorce, as hard as it will be for u, because u do love him, but that's not enough. got to have loyalty and one who loves u. better to leave him now than keep getting this over and over again. bad happens to us all, things we can't understand, or make any sense about. but we can't let our circumstances destroy us, or keep us in a prison with someone who hurts us. you loved him, your not the fool he is. he has lost here, but u lost nothing but a cheat and a liar. he will leave again every time he is angry or dissatisfied or doesn't get his way, its just who he is, and u can't do much to change him, get out of it, save your self worth, dignity and future. see him for who he really is, not who u thought he was.
2007-03-08 11:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, very true
you leave then there is no coming back
i don't care what the apologies are or waht you thought or felt or figured out, once you leave the door is closed and you can never come back
2007-03-08 10:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him. Don't apologize to yourself for that. Live and learn. Move on with your life. He'll be the big loser in the long run. Good Luck, and God bless you.
2007-03-08 10:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by K.W. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Fool me once...shame on YOU", "fool me twice, shame on ME!" Do NOT let him come back the third time!
2007-03-08 11:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel like he would leave again and you need to try to move on for you'll keep getting hurt if you keep taking him back
2007-03-08 11:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read and re-read that saying, "fool me once..fool me twice.." move on to something, or someone else
2007-03-08 17:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by dƒ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋