Daycare for my 1yr. old?

Question

My son just turned 1 in March and now I would like to start weaning him from breastfeeding... he eats other foods and drinks from bottle or sippy cup but just doesn't want to stop breastfeeding, I also don't know what to do with his seperation anxiety... he will crawl around the whole house after me crying as if I were doing sumthing to him, and also I would like for him to sleep alone in his crib and through the entire night... up until he was 6mos. he slept the whole night and in his crib but now.......what do I do? I need all this to put him in daycare so that I can work.... and where can I find a good, clean, inexpensive daycare center in San Bernardino that isn't really someone working out of their house???

Answer 1

I am having a similar problem with my son who will turn one in April. He doesn't want to stop breastfeeding. A few months ago - I gave it up for a whole weekend and basically left the house for most of the day and had my husband, my mom and mom-in-law try to give him a bottle. Eventually he took it, but on Monday he was back to breastfeeding because we were left alone and together all day. I then gave up on the bottle and he now will only drink water out of a sippy cup and not any milk. I hope someone gives you some good suggestions, but most have told me that when he is ready he will begin to wean. I haven't gone back to work because of that but am enjoying my time at home. I would like to work parttime just to get out and feel useful.

About your second question, we have our son sleeping in his crib and through the night now. It only happened recently. We tried a method where we would put him in his crib after his bedtime routine and he would cry for a bit. You go back to him after 5 min and tell him firmly to go to sleep (however you have been phrasing it), make sure he is ok but don't cuddle him or pick him up. Then leave and wait 20 minutes and do the same thing. Then you keep going in every 20 minutes. After a while he realizes it is time to sleep and not want to be held. You also do this when they wake up at night. We did this and it worked! He now falls asleep within minutes and stays asleep all night!! I know he wakes up in the night - because sometimes he will cry or whimper, but then puts himself back to sleep again.

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

WOW! I'm going to sound like the evil witch here. I'm the mother of five girls, all of who slept through the night by the time they were 9 months and were breast feed. Number 1, stop breastfeeding him, if he can get around the house and drink from a cup, it time to stop. End of story. I've seen ladies who've breastfeed their child until the kid could open the women's blouse. I say when they can get it self serve, it's time to close the tap. As for bedtime consistency is definitely the key. Set a routine. Every night at the same time do the bath, brush his teeth, read him a story, say his prayers if your so inclined and turn in the night lite. Then tell him that it is time for him to go to bed and shut off the bright lites, put him in his little bed and close the door. Absolutely do not go in. The hardest part is to ignore that part of the mothers instinct to run back into the room and pick him up and hold him until he goes to sleep. Letting him cry himself to sleep won't scar him emotionally anymore than daycare will cause him harm. I get truly angry when people don't understand that women sometimes have to work. I'm sorry that I can't help with the daycare issue however, make sure to visit the place you do pick unannounced so that you know that they aren't just putting on a show for your benefit. Good luck.

Answer 3

i don;t know where you can find a day care but i wouldn't put him in daycare and wean him at the same time it will be much harder on both of you if you send him to daycare and he drink out of a cup and eats solids then you shouldn't have a problem he won;t feel he is missing anything bc if the breast isn't in front of him he'll forget all about it until you pick him up then you'll probably have to breast feed for a few but if you keep up breastfeeding just one month after you put him in daycare your milk supply will lower alot and it will be easier after he is adjusted to daycare then you can wean

Answer 4

I would probably start with leaving him with a day care provider one hour a day to start and every couple of days make it longer (i have 2 children one of witch my oldest is 31/2 has ADHD and TD) then once youve got him used to be at daycare for at least 8 hrs per day, then it i would start weaning him that way its not all being taken from him at once. i deal with stuff like that every day a child with a transition disorder is not a walj in the park. But really just follow your motherly instinct do what you think is right for your child b/c every child is different.

Answer 5

im gonna skip all your questions and go to the last one... here is a website for daycares http://www.truelocal.com/topicsearch6.aspx?q=daycare%20centers&cs=San%20Bernardino%20California

and also, the in home daycares are actually the best. People who actually love what they are doing start their own business. They care alot more about the children than other day cares do. At the other day cares they just have people who "work" there.

My son has been going to an in home daycare for 2 years. He is now in preschool and goes there after school. I'd rather him go there so he feels like hes at "home" and not at a daycare facility all day.

Answer 6

Well, keeping in mind that more than 10 hours a week of separation from mommy before age 3 is damaging to children socially, intellectually, physically, and emotionally,

and given that your son is telling you he wants his birthright -

to be with you, to nurse on demand, to sleep with his mother,

you might want to consider a plan that actually meets the needs of your son, rather than trying to make him be what he is not, a potted plant who can be put up when need be, kinda in suspended animation, until you get back.

There is no day care worth the price of the damage that will be done to your son.

If you truly have no choice but to abandon your son this way, homebased day care will be the best, if you can be reasonably sure this person will stick with you. Changing providers is very very harmful to a child's ability to attach. In a center, you are absolutely guaranteed that he will have a damaging number of caregivers to cope with.

Answer 7

Where is the father of the child???

How about if he works so you can stay home and take care of your baby?