Follow Up on my Lazy Wife, I need REAL suggestion?

Question

I just posted a question here and some took it wrong, let me set the record straight: 1st, I am out of work because my last boss was a jerk. 2nd I will get another job when the weather gets better AND I haven't been feeling well for weeks now.

3rd I don't know how to cook or clean up a house, my wife is supposed to do that..THAT was our agreement when we married. I will NOT do laudry, I will NOT stoop that low and wreck my self esteem..NO THANKS.
What I'm saying is: She spends so much time at the office, that she is neglecting ME, our house etc...that's ALL!!!
YES, I think she is being lazy around the house.
OH, & BTW, I was an asstant mgr. at Quick-Mart for 5 Months before I was forced to quit to prove a point!

Answer 1

it sounds like to me that SHE has a JOB and YOU DO NOT... so get off your lazy a*s and do some house work since your wife is supporting you...

so let me get this straight... your wife work in an office and you was a bag boy or whatever... your wife was the one to stoop that low and wreck her self esteem to have married a lazy BUM like YOU!!! if she was smart she would kick your out of work lazy a*s out of the house

Answer 2

You are fighting hard to prove a point but you're still so out of touch. Even if you were working before, why shouldn't you help out at home, especially when you're not working. By the way, any of the women out there will tell you that not feeling well is quite different from feeling ill. Most women don't feel well for several days every month and nobody cares about that.
Sad that you think it's below you to do some laundry. You called it stooping low. What does that say about your feeling about your wife? As for your wife working so much, have you spoken to her to find out if she feels forced to do so because there isn't enough money coming in to pay the bills? Maybe you should get another job and take the pressure off her. Otherwise, buy yourself a full length mirror and watch yourself starve. Have you wondered if perhaps she feels unhappy at home because of your selfish attitude? It's no fun working hard all day, probably after having to deal with a "boss who is a jerk" then coming home to a miserable, unreasonable husband who has another job waiting on her. Learn to throw the clothes in the washing machine, sprinkle some detergent and flip a few switches. It's a good thing you don't have to wash them by hand!! Gaaaad! Make the home pleasant so that the woman has a reason to rush home to you and while you're at it, fix your doggone hair and put on some decent looking clothes and some cologne. Order some take-out and set the table. Stop being so whiny and pathetic or you'll make her despise you!!

Answer 3

My wife is lazy. I work very hard at times. I have worked 20 hours of overtime this past week. I take care of my email while at home and work online while on vacation. I make 3 times what she does. My our house is a mess and I am lucky if she cooks a meal ever. When our day care provider can't watch our daughter I take time off from work to watch her. She doesn't even bother to.

She is not romantic at all. When it's time for sex it's like answering the phone. You hear it ring and pick it up. No foreplay or anything. Just a guilt trip.

You, my friend, are really in the dark if this story of yours is true. I think you wife feels that you are lazy and is waiting for you to show some initiative around the house. If you got a good job she'd probably start doing those things you "expect" her to do around the house. Now that you have revealed the lazy side of yourself it may be too late to make her feel like you are what she wanted in a man/partner.

Clean yourself up, ditch the attitude about work, and get some interviews. Stop being a spectator.

Answer 4

Just look yourself into the mirror! Can you tell out what did you see?

NOTHING.

- You have no self-esteem.
- You have no respect.
- You are of no value to your wife.
- You cannot accept inccidents that already happened which
are caused by yourself.

THE WORST THING IS THAT:-

You will never admit that you are in the wrong. You are telling everyone all nonsence excuses!!

That's not the reasons you need to give, BUT, its the BLAME -You only know how to put blames on your wife.

If you continue to be like this, you will one day ruin your family, your marriage, in the end, you'll just end up like a pile of rubbish!

Wake up! try to do something in the house, at least a little for your wife. You are still valuable to your wife if you think you are!

Treasure what you have & never regret when its gone!

Answer 5

I'm curious why you think doing chores around the house is stooping to a low level? It would wreck my self-esteem to admit that I don't know how to clean a house, or be able to take care of myself or my family. Maybe she spends so much time at the office because she finds that having a husband that expects so much from her is unattractive. If you didn't get your "agreement" in writing then you may want to consider stepping back and deciding if you want the life you have or complaining about not getting the one you feel you're entitled to.

Answer 6

I'm sure that your wife didn't AGREE when she married you to go to work all day while you sat at home doing nothing!! I never leave negative comments but you rub me the wrong way!! Do you think that she is below you sense she cleans the house?? Because you are way off there!! You quit your job because your boss was a jerk, but you are being a jerk to your wife should she quite the marriage? That's something you should ask yourself. And are you being everything for her that you AGREED upon when you got married. Because most of the time when the wife agrees to take care of the house and kids the husband agrees to supports the family. I think that you need to take a step back and really look at your life and how much your wife does for you!!!

Answer 7

You sound very traditional. It's not a matter of stooping low and wrecking your self esteem, it's a matter of helping out with the chores when you have a chance. I understand that you don't want to do the laundry, dishes, etc., but you should at least learn how to cook and occasionally assist your wife in cleaning the house when she's cleaning. There's nothing wrong with that.

Answer 8

You sound cocky
My boyfriend has a great self esteem thats why he can help with the housework and kids he is a great dad and makes alot of money he cooks cleans does laundry and dishes we both do. he is smart and succesful. and you sound lazy sorry your ego wont let you get into this century
When house work needs to be done and he starts doing i feel a little guilty and and up helping and the same goes for him we never fight and have a great relationship maybe you should try helping out since she is the bread winner at the moment

Answer 9

wow assistant manager at the Quick-Mart...moving up in the world huh?? id suggest YOU going to school and getting some education on LIFE because you don't have a clue. i work and have a newborn and my husband will come home after working a 12 hour day and cook me dinner AND do laundry because he knows that ive had a stressful day. marriage is 50/50 and an understanding with each other. its not about what work is suited for who. its about helping each other no matter what. if i had to deal with someone like you...o wait, i would NEVER put up with some crap like that. and this just makes me thank God even more for the man that i have in MY life. people like you do not deserve the love of a woman.

Answer 10

Do yourself a favour, give your poor wife a divorce and then go look up narcissism !
Seems you want your cake and you wanna eat it as well.
Stoop that low to do some laundry... omg, so it is ok with you that your wife stoops that low to wreck her self esteem is it ??
You have a major problem.... and i do hope your wife gets the strength to piss you off sooner than later, yea maybe her father knows what a controlling lazy man you are id say!