any consequences of premarital sex in your marriage? What practical advice would you give someone on why not to have premarital sex - for example, what effects does it have on your marriage if any.
2007-03-08 10:20:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not necessarily premarital sex with your now partner, but permarital sex with other people..
2007-03-08 10:25:32 · update #1
Yes, My husband and I were high school sweethearts, and we're active at the age of 16. I don't think it really had any significance in our relationship in the end. We ended getting married at 18 and 19. Been married for 30 yrs. But, I would always say "wait"...and I did tell my daughters too. But in the long run it is their choice.
2007-03-08 10:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married 7 years almost this May. We had premarital sex before we became married 6 months later. I knew my to-husband then 2 years prior to us dating. We dated Nov.7,1999 and have been together since. If your views of her change because she has premarital sex then DON'T. It has been brought up by my husband a few years back but i wish we would have waited until we married. If it matters to you then WAIT! If you are ready to commit completely to marrying this girl then wait. Tell her that you cherish her and plan to wait. If she truly loves you she'll respect you she'll wait. It'll add more excitement to your relationship until the honeymoon. most people say to "test drive" and I have mixed feelings about that also. it is "YOUR" value/moral system that you must follow not what everyone agrees with. I have only had the effects of my husband throwing it at me when we got into a heated argument that made me feel like S**t but he wasn't saying NO either so good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-03-08 18:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by anabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choosing not to have premarital sex is usually a moral decision. There is no evidence that healthy realtionships are negatively affected by having sex before marriage. However, if you have a moral reason not to, then it is entirely a personal choice.
Asiode from moral considerations, if you are both physically and emotionally ready for sex and your relationship is good, then it should only strengthen it. Having or not having sex will not fix existing problems, so if you are in doubt, resolve yoiur issues first.
2007-03-08 18:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by MoonWomyn13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some would say that premarital sex could make you get bored quicker but honestly, I didn't have a problem with it. If you love someone it should not really matter. But that's just my view and in the end it's your choice.
2007-03-08 18:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cryssi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, because I was taught a LOT differently in a very religious household that taught abstinence....but I have to say, you really should "take a test drive" before you marry somebody. I'm not saying sleep around, but if you've been dating a while, and are contemplating marriage, ya better find out if he/she can rock your boat or not, cuz it can cause problems later! I don't think "pre marital" sex affects your marriage really. What's in the past is in the past period. On both sides.
2007-03-08 18:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound odd coming from a man, but what I have suffered is regret. How much more special would that intimate moment be had it been saved for marriage? How much more the bond if that intimacy had only been shared with your wife and no other?
Now that I have met and married the woman I love, I regret that I cannot stand before God and say "the woman I love is the only woman I have ever shared myself with". That would have made me very proud.
2007-03-08 18:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by theanswerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
premarital sex got me pregnant at 18
2007-03-08 18:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by hilltopper 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone who did not have sex until his wedding night (and it wasn't for lack of trying, believe me!), and same went for the bride, I have to say have all the premarital sex you possbily can!
Seriously, sex is a big part of marriage, and you need to KNOW you are sexaully compatible with your potential spouse before tying that knot.
Heed my warning, people!
2007-03-08 19:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hasn't caused any problems between me and my husband. However with our kids we tell them to wait til they're older (not meaning they have to be married though) because my older child was with my ex from high school and being pregnant my senior year of high school was not exactly the best thing....especially since my ex and his family bailed on me, my son, and any responsibilities. So I think that when people preach about abstinence they should say to wait until you're out of school and have a job of some sort (which is manageable) instead of waiting til marriage which most people just aren't going to do.
2007-03-08 20:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex between me and my wife before marriage has not hurt us at all. The problem is that she had a std from a former lover and we didn't know it until a couple years after we got married. So now we REALLY share everything for life.
2007-03-08 18:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋