My spouse and I are seperated, and his woman is sending our kids checks, what is her angle what is she trying to gain? Along with the checks she writes abusive messages. What is she up to?
2007-03-08 10:17:29 · 15 answers · asked by Johnnie C 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I would talk to your lawyer before you return the checks...she may just be paying a form of child support, and depending on the laws in your state, it may be completely okay for her to do that.
But be sure that any notations on the memo line are okay with you, because once the check is endorsed, whatever's written there is binding. (In other words, don't cash a check if she wrote something there that could come back and bite you later on.)
2007-03-08 10:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being a jealous new lover. That is besides the point, what you need to do is make copies of the checks before you cash them and create a paper trail to PROVE that she is abusive to your kids. That way, by going through the courts you can prove that your spouse's new woman is not a very good influence around your kids and may be ordered to be kept away from them. Good luck. P.S. If it is really bad (threatening) call the police. You can sue her for harassment. Just keep calm and look and act like the innocent victim.
2007-03-08 10:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is still hurt about the brake up. She is not over it, or you for that matter. If she was, why would she feel the need to write abusive messages? It would make no since. She misses you and her children. She must have messed up really bad and she doesn't want to admit that she wrong. One day she will quite lying to herself and admit that she needs to get over what happened or that she was wrong about something and she will be happy therefor so will you :)
2007-03-08 10:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the messages, cash the checks. Maybe even send a thank you note.
2007-03-08 10:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by webned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he told her to send cheques and she is putting the letter in because she is jealous.
Maybe she is trying to play games on you.
Maybe she wants to get the kids on her side, and she is sending the messages to you just because she is an idiot and has nothing better to do then to say stuff to you.
Tell her to tell it to your face and not be a wimp and have to write a letter.
2007-03-08 10:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure I understand the question.
In some states, the 2nd wife can be held liable for child support payments that the husband owes. She is choosing the lesser of two evils, and has a lot of resentment. Her resentment is misplaced, in my opinion.
2007-03-08 10:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have custody of the children, open accounts in their names, and deposit the checks for a college fund. Don't even read the notes, throw them away. If something weird legal happens, you can show the judge where all the money is and that you haven't spent it on yourself.
2007-03-08 10:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Akuji 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds sick. Photo copy the checks and send them back. Keep the messages. If it keeps up, you may need both for evidence.
2007-03-08 10:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Checks are legally tracked and can be used as records of proof that the children are being supported.
2007-03-08 10:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you endorse the checks make sure you include a nice smiley face and a big thank you.
2007-03-08 10:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋