Im thinking of coming out this weekend... i had a girlfriend but we broke up last month but now im going out with persian girl who i happend to like very much... we hand sleep over more than once and my moms okay about it since she dont know that im bi YET and i donno how to ocme out to my strict hindu family? i donno wat to say?
2007-03-08 10:09:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anita 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sweetie, I cannot stress this enough: DO NOT "come out". A lot of people here are going to urge you to just tell them and be done with it. IGNORE THEM. They want you to sacrifice your soul to make their recruitment quota. You need to find a Bible and a preacher, and talk to him. He knows what's best for you. But there is no such thing as "gay", or "bi". Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE is heterosexual. There is no evidence, psychological or scientific evidence to support any other possibility. Just find Christ.
2007-03-08 10:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Jason A 1 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Be prepared to stand tall. My best friend is gay and his aunt and uncle outed him. Please get support from the gay/lesbian community. It may be time to become a member of a new "family". You must explain to your family that sexual "preference" is a genetic thing, that you mean no disrespect to them or the traditional values in your culture, but you were born that way and must be true to yourself, and that it would be cruel of them to make you change. It is likely that your father and your mother will think they did something wrong in your upbringing, or that this is just a phase of rebelliousness, or an intentional act to hurt them. They must listen to the voice of reason. Perhaps seek out counseling, with you and both your parents there. God Bless.
P.S.: I am a Christian who knows my God does not judge you on that basis. Love conquers all.
2007-03-08 18:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd suggest asking people in the Hindu faith for advice on how to come out and how to help your parents come to accept your sexuality.
2007-03-08 23:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a social worker or someone else before you come out. Then tell them and make sure someone has your back if something goes wrong.
2007-03-08 18:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by A Journey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dunno Anita...I think you need to talk to some Hindu people about this..I'm not up on the culture at all....
2007-03-08 18:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋