My boyfriend and I have two babies. We only got pregnant when we tried. Any other time, we never got pregnant. We have sex most of the time unprotected. When ever he smokes weed, I never get pregnant. By the way, he cums inside of me all the time. He has had plenty of sex in the past and girls havn't got pregnant.
We break up and he has sex with a girl. She finds out about me and the kids and wants to keep him because she's jealous. 3 months later she claims she's pregnant by him.
When they had sex, they used a condom. He did weed to.They had sex twice in a two week period. She had a period while together but they broke up before her next period. He admits a little *** spilt on the outside. She said she was a virgin yet no pain, blood, nothing. I asked her then was she pregnant. She took me seriously and said, "No, I'm not pregnant". For two months she's been calling him to get back with him. Not once said she was pregnant. He said no for the last time. One month later, she is.
2007-03-08 10:08:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Firstly - GET RID OF HIM
Anyone who smokes 'weed' needs their head read.
Secondly - GET RID OF HIM
You took him back after he was shagging someone else? FOOL
Thirdly - GET RID OF HIM
You dont need a 'weed' smoking man to be the father of your children
Finally- GET RID OF HIM
Let the other girl have him if she wants him that much - he's a loser
2007-03-08 10:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
I just wanted to comment on a few things...
1) Not all virgins bleed or have pain their first time. I didn't. By the way, how do YOU know if she had pain or bled? You're not her and you weren't there when they had sex.
2) Your boyfriend's weed smoking has little to do with this situation your in. I know lots of people who smoke weed every day and who have fathered children with no problem. Smoking high amounts of weed for a long time CAN sometimes reduce a man's sperm count (as well as cause damage to a woman's eggs if she's smoking it), but it's unlikely that his occasional weed smoking is doing much of anything to his ability to get a woman pregnant.
3) Why are you with someone who clearly doesn't respect you, or her, or probably ANY woman for that matter?
4) YOU need to get tested for STDs and AIDS as soon as possible (I don't care if they SAY they used condoms, those do not protect against certain strains of STDs, not to mention they also don't always protect against AIDS and pregnancies either). You should also encourage him to get tested as well.
5) If this chick IS pregnant, he can always have a paternity test done to determine if he fathered the child or not.
Don't stress yourself out too much right now...in time you'll see if she is or is not pregnant, so deal with that when that time comes. In the meantime, I suggest that if you and your boyfriend want to work it out and stay together, you could probably use some couples counceling together.
Good Luck to you, your kids, and this whole situation.
2007-03-08 18:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Megan V 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well they both sound sketchy to me. She could be pregnant by him. You know he has active sperm, so if she was ovulating when they had sex, she could have gotten pregnant. To have a "litttle *** spill on the outside" he most likely was NOT using a condom. And the semen that comes out before he actually ejaculates is claimed to be the most sperm filled. And from what I have read, Marijuans takes a while to build up in the system to have a negative effect on sperm count, and even then, it only takes one strong swimmer.
If you want this man in your life still, I suggest getting the DNA test as soon as the baby is born.
Sorry you have to go through this. Wouldnt it be nice if every father cherished the family he has already made and the woman he made it with?
2007-03-08 18:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Nolie ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, everytime you have sex you have a chance of getting pregnant, so...yes, it's possible he got her pregnant. It doesn't matter if she was a virgin or not, or whether some of his semen "spilled" out of her.
Just because you only got pregnant when you wanted to and never when he smoked weed doesn't mean that will apply to other people. Everyone's body works differently. You can only know for sure by doing a DNA test after she has the baby.
2007-03-08 18:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by It's Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truth is she could be pregnant and it could be his ... condoms don't always work ... you both just got lucky with all of that unprotected sex ... your lucky you don't have an STD with his sexual past ... weed isn't a method of birth control, so really has little effect on sperm count and pregnancy prevention ... then again she may be a liar ... time will tell as will a blood test!
Hope this helps,
Jennifer
2007-03-08 18:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by jennifermlayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely she's just a liar. I was in a similar situation. I had a 17 yr old girl's mother calling my house trying to get ahold of my daughter's father when he didn't even live with me cuz she said her daughter was pregnant by him and he told them they could use my number if they needed. Come to find out in the end she wasn't pregnant and the baby she was claiming was his was actually her brother's. She was also bipolar. Another time he was with another girl and I found out about her when he had us both trying to get him out of jail. I got her number and was calling her telling her the truth about him being with me while he was trying to be with her too. it might sound stupid to some, but I am still with him and we have 2 kids now. I really understand that you want to stil be with him. You love him and he's the father of your children. Just change your number if neccessary and only time will tell if she really is pregnant and whether it's his.
2007-03-16 12:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would have to say, why would you want this guy back? If he is doing drugs and sleeping with other women, doesn't sound like a real winner to me. Nonetheless, yes, it is possible she is pregnant. Not every pregnancy or "first time" is a like so there is no real way to tell, until of course your boyfriend gets the child support summons in the mail from her. Good luck!
2007-03-08 18:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend had sex with someone he may be the father of her baby. The only way to really find out is to take a dna test when the baby is born. I'm not really sure why anyone would want youre boyfriend.. he does drugs and he doesnt seem to be sticking around bc you have kids with him.. so im not really seeing why she would lie to be with him.. sounds like some Jerry Springer crap to me.. good luck.
2007-03-08 18:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a liar but you wont know for sure till she has (or doesnt have) a baby and he gets a DNA test.
I hope you and your boyfriend have worked out your problems. I know you 2 were broken up at the time but he moved on pretty fast!!
Good luck but I think she is lying
2007-03-16 18:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had sex with her she could be pregnant by him. Weed smoking has NOTHING to do with it. Different partners can conceive easier than others.
2007-03-15 12:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by plainfieldcletusblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your focusing too much on this girl. Focus on your "boyfriend" and your children. You know the way girls are, they get jealous. Maybe she did lie. But don't you think you should be pissed off at him. Who knows all the stuff he was telling her. He's the one who is supposed to be faithful to you....
2007-03-15 16:12:45 · answer #11 · answered by lilmech44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋