should you have sex before marriage?

Answer 1

In this day and age I don't think it really matters.

Answer 2

In all honesty I think that people should wait. But I really don't have room to talk. I had sex and children before I was married. So I would say why not have sex before marriage. It is ultimately your decision to have sex not everyone else's.

Answer 3

I would never marry a man if I hadn't had a sexual relationship with him first.

Sure, the Bible says wait until after marriage, but they didn't have things like THE PILL and CONDOMS way back then, and it was extremely important that a woman be a virgin at marriage so her BRIDE PRICE wasn't diminished, and her family honor wouldn't be stained, and there was no doubt as to who had fathered any children she conceived. Sometimes they'd hang the sheets stained with her virgin's blood outside the house for everyone to see.

However, in MODERN times, our parents don't get to sell their virgin daughters to the highest bidder, like they DO ALL THE TIME IN THE BIBLE. (Read the story of Jacob, Laban, Rachel, and Leah. Parents SOLD their daughters like chattels, it was common practice. They also sold their excess children into SLAVERY. Read Leviticus sometime.)

Now, however, women own their own sexuality, and sexual satisfaction for both partners is VERY important in a marriage. Again, I would never marry a man I hadn't previously slept with, because I wouldn't want to get to that marriage bed and find out my new husband can only come when he's shoving hot needles through my nipples.

Seriously, ladies. What if you get to the honeymoon suite and find out that all his sexual fantasies sound like violent crime scenarios? Or find out that he can only last for two seconds before he comes, and doesn't think there's anything wrong with that? What if all he wants is oral sex, and totally refuses to ever reciprocate?

And there you are...MARRIED to him.

As in, stuck with this guy FOREVER.

I wouldn't be attracted to a guy who wanted to wait to have sex after marriage, either. Because if that kind of thing is THAT important to him, he's going to be hung up on your virginity (or lack thereof) forever. Plus, a man who thought that was important is probably extremely religious or doesn't have a very high sex drive, in which case I wouldn't be attracted to him.

Answer 4

Some important information has been left out...such as how old are you now, are you interested in marrying young, finishing school, etc. If you are a level headed young adult, I say sex is good for you in many ways. I don't buy into the whore/slut name calling for women who CHOOSE to have multiple sex partners. If she is only having sex due to low self-esteem, past abuse, or peer presure, then I do see problems. Many women and men are choosing not to get married until they are in their late 30's and early 40's. To me it seems unrealistic that they could or would wait to find out what all the hoopla is.

Answer 5

I imagine it is hard to understand the reasons without having had sex. You may find that you have preferences or things that you want to try that your lover has no interest in, and he may experience the same. If you've already comitted your lives to one another and then discover that your emotional and physical desires are not being met in the bedroom, you will not be happy, and you will be stuck with it.

You have one life to live, lady. You'd better make sure you are not going into it blind.

Answer 6

It is a personal choice and should be respected either way.

I did NOT wait until getting married to have sex. I do NOT regret it. My husband did wait until he got married to have sex.

Personally I think that a person should wait until they are in a long term and committed relationship to partake in the physical pleasures. Sex is sex, and sex for just the sake of sex is good. But sex with someone you love is absolutely the greatest thing in the world.

Answer 7

If I was to do it all over again. I would of waited.
That way you will find a person in your life who waits and loves to know you just the way you are. People come and go and having someone special in your life only comes once in a lifetime. Having people make you think they love you by having sex says nothing and it isn't much to hold on to as time goes by. Give yourself to the one you spent time with to know and to emotionally get attach to before that has to come into play.
It is worth the wait. Don't listen to others,( Many on here will think it's a joke)..... once you have continuously had sex with many you will be confused in life as the years go by on what love is really about and how it really should feel in your heart and soul forever.

Answer 8

Thats not really a question one should answer for another person. I believe its up to that person and no one else. I myself see nothing wrong with it, but some people do. Alot of people these days don't wait for marriage to become sexually active. With society the way it is it is hard for one to keep from giving in.

Answer 9

NO

in our society we encourage every one to be promiscuous and I still don't understand it. Why would you want to get naked and have a sexual experience with anyone that does not want to protect you and shelter you forever. I stayed a virgin til my wedding night I married a man with a active past, he was never so happy in sex as in our marriage, in fact he was very surprised how fulling it could be.
when you sleep with someone who is not willing to marry you you both will naturally hold back or be in it just for some one to make you feel good, in fact a selfish experience it is very different when you are in it to make the other person feel wonderful.
do not be pressured to allow some one to use you body for their pleasure at no cost to them, you are worth marrying and worth waiting for.
my husband will never worry about me screwing around on him, why should he? I never did before I was married why would I after?

Answer 10

No, you shouldn't. I'll try to be simple. God created us. God created sex, but He created it to be enjoyed just under an unbreakable, long term relationship called Marriage. Sex in marriage is blessed by God. Sex out of it is not. If you have sex out of marriage you will pay consequences. The best consequence you can pay is getting an undesired pregnancy. The worst, STD's.

Answer 11

NO!! If his sex is bad, then you won't know what you're missing. If you know someone else is better than he is in bed, then you'll wish you never knew the difference. Besides, it's s special thing that only you can give away once. Is some guy really worth it, or the guy who chose to spend the rest of his life with you by already marrying you?