or man has taken over your life? My ex left for the other woman. We were having problems that I thought could be worked out with counselling and communication. I believed we both wanted a better relationship. However, I made the mistake of thinking he wanted it with me. It's been almost a year now and I am moving on - new job, new house, new friends. But sometimes it feels as though she has won. She has my now ex husband, my son every other weekend, my now ex-family in law who I loved. They are building a new life together while I am still in the process of putting mine back together. It just does not seem fair! I know I am whining but just feeling a little down today. Any thoughts to cheer me up??
2007-03-08 09:36:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, so the idiot you married was pretty much worthless and disloyal
so he is garbage, completely disloyal and for some reason you think she won? what exactly did she win? its not like your ex can qualify for grand prize at the fair
think of it this way, he is your garbage, and she is just the trailer trash that goes to the dump to play
be happy
2007-03-08 10:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him go and work on being the best you, you can be for yourself. Take some time to yourself and learn who you are again and why you're a wonderful person worthy of being loved in return. You owe this to your son. Don't be the bitter ex. Your job now is to be the best mom possible and work on fostering the relationship your son has with his father. In the end, this truly is what's best for him. You will find someone someday who is worthy of you and your son. The best revenge is living the best life possible.
2007-03-08 17:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by ReneeD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really have any happy thoughts for ya besides...you arent alone. I am having one of those days too. Actually the past 2 days. My eyes sting from crying so much. I think all men are pigs anymore LOL I picture my ex's new whore (first of all she is uglier than sin and she looks inbred!) walking down the street (because THEY have no car or money) and I am running her over with my explorer. That kind of cheers me up!! Try that one :)
2007-03-08 17:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by cheeks4u21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always remember that what goes around comes around, and those who hurt others it does come back to them. i too felt the same way when he left to live with her. my in laws refused to speak to me any more, my best friend mother in law said she could no longer speak to me, i felt she won and stole my life. but really he will not treat her any better after awhile, those who afflict pain on others gets it back. seen it happen many times. unfortunately u have a child by this man and can't get away from him. sometimes life is unfair, i know i went through the same thing, only difference is i no longer have to see him or his family, we had no kids. just don't let what has happened steal all of your joy here. he deserves her and she him. don't think he will succeed in life, or be happy. and what she caused to happen in your life will come back to slap her in the face. u lost nothing but a cheating no morals man, who will do it again. your better off this woman did u a favor, only u can't see it yet.
2007-03-08 18:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna be ok. You need to find happiness within yourself. While they are building their life together, God is working on you. He has something better for you in his master plan. Give all your problems to him, and he will come through. Love yourself, be happy with yourself, Love your son, do things with him, focus on that. You have your son almost all the time. that should make you happy.
2007-03-08 17:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by precious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she will find a new married man to screw with and leave your ex feeling the way you do.
I know this is hard. It only adds to it that his family excepted his w00re in your place.
Woman like that are the bane of society!
2007-03-08 18:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think about winning or losing...would you really want to be with a man who didn't want to be with you...he probably did you a favor and you should be thanking her....I know it hurts and I know it is difficult...but you will come out stronger and you will make a wonderful life for yourself and your son....I have been there and I feel your pain.....it takes time...don't dwell on it....be a better person because of it...good luck to you
2007-03-08 17:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, do you really want to be with a man that doesn't want to be with you? Now think of all his bad habits, she has to deal with that crap, and if when you started having problems he bolted, what do you think he'll do when they start having problems? You have a second chance at life, there is somebody great out there with you, just be patient.
2007-03-08 18:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope , it is not fair..
Your husband is more to blame than she is...
Don't worry..
You will soon have a new love and will get over your pain..
Best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love...
Success & happiness is also the best revenge..
2007-03-08 17:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that this woman is not taking your place in any way. My mom and dad divorced when I was little, and they both got remarried. My dad's parents welcomed my stepmom, but they still love my mom. Your exhusband still remembers you, and your son still thinks of you as his mom, not her. Good luck with moving on :)
2007-03-08 17:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by Brittany Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋