There is seperation with intent to divorce in my marriage. Through time and consideration and lots of advice you consider not ending an almost 10 year marriage. However your want to be saint, never does anything wrong husband comes clean on some not so great info here on YA about temptation (with a certain female co-worker, I'm guessing, since she tried for over a year to drive a wedge thru our marriage by emailing him and myself all the time with what she wanted to do to my husband). He's never told me he was tempted to cheat with her, isn't that some important information that I should have known instead of all of you?
2007-03-08 09:25:35 · 5 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Perhaps he didn't feel safe to tell you about this because he feared your reaction.
We really cannot know.
If he was tempted, but decided against cheating, give him credit for making the right decision instead of trying to find fault with how he handled it.
It's a tough situation to find ones self in. Not all people would respond favorably if their spouse said they were tempted, but ultimately chose to remain faithful.
Give what you've written, is it possible that he feared you would not respond favorably, even though he ultimately did the right thing?
2007-03-08 09:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men just do not operate like us. I'm sure they have lots of thoughts, and some temptations, but they are harmless. Him not acting on them says something positive. I can see where you would want him to tell every single thing but is it enough to fight over or throw away your marriage? Why don't you just ask him about it? Then let it go, start over...
Good luck!
2007-03-08 17:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Temptation and acting on it are not the same.
It is hypocritical of you to ask us how right it was for your husband to ask us a question about his personal life.
It isn't important information for you. It can only heighten your insecurity. If you'd remained ignorant of this non-event you'd be happier and your marriage more healthy. Your husband was right to not bring it up.
2007-03-08 17:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, ma'am. Now, if he is messing around with that beyotch, I would say that is grounds, regardless of how long you have been married. I really hate liars and deceivers, personally. Oh, boy, this is hard. If you already are separated, your done, girl, get your final decree, and get on with your life. Your life is way to short to waste being miserable. I am 45, and at this point in my life, people have started dying all around me, you want your life to be worthwhile, not wasted. God Bless You, you deserve to be happy, and to have a man that is completely honest with you.
2007-03-08 17:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he was probably seeking unbiased opinions...and yours would certainly have been biased.
2007-03-08 17:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by sunbun 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋