Married men:honest answer please?

Question

If you have been married a long time and your wife is not perfect physically, but she is a good woman. She is there for you emotionally, physically (as often as you want and is very open to any suggestion sexually involving just the two of you). You have a nice life, good kids. No financial troubles. You tell her you love her and that she's special and the only one for you.....Are you truly satisfied and happy, or are you just settling for what you've got and secretly wishing you were with someone younger, skinnier and more exciting? I know this is a long question and you can't answer for my husband, but was just wanting to get a feeling for what married men are actually feeling.

When I say that to my husband, I really, really mean it. I only love him and couldn't ask for a better man. Just wondering if it's the same for men?

To everyone: I can't even begin to thank you for all your answers and for how wonderful you've made me feel!! You have restored my faith in humanity!!! I am not even gonna question my husband's words again! He says he loves me and I believe him! You men are awesome and your wives/girlfriends are blessed, just like I am!

Answer 1

I am sure he is happy. Don't worry. A man can't ask for more than you described. I am sure that he finds other attractive women attractive. As I am sure that you find young, fit, attractive men appealing. But, everyone does! It doesn't mean they are unhappy with their mate. Don't worry. It sounds like you have a good thing going, don't let negative thoughts stemming from your insecurities get in the way of a good life.

Answer 2

The last time I looked in the mirror i don't remember seeing a perfect specimen so why should I expect her to be perfect. We are together because we love being with eachother, sharing the good and the bad moments. I f I had a choice I would do it all again, maybe with a little different decisions financially but it would be with her. We are where we are at because we have walked together down this path (23 years and 3 kids in college). The only thing I would hope is that she has the same feeling for me.

Answer 3

Honestly most men well gentlemen that is love there wife for who they are not necessarily what they look like after being a mother and a gracious wife for many years it is normal for both the husband and the wife to change. It is actually more common for the man of the house to add a few pounds after getting hitched. I would stop worrrying about this and if you want to lose some weight then get to the gym your man loves
you for you and I would just be happy if he had any serious problem with you he would tell you. He tells you he loves you and your the only one for him that should be enough for you to realize that your his dream girl and he couldn't imagine being with anyone else you given him his family that is for some men there dream. God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 4

Honest answer, most men are smart enough not to fall into such a trap by women. They have to answer yes whether its honest or not, even if you also ask for an honest answer. If women want a truthful answer they should learn to accept the truth and not base too much their self-worth on it.

My true answer is that after I'm married, once she has had my children I would expect her not to look physically attractive like hollywood would have me believe is attractive, but the fact that she looks like a mother will make her more attractive to me than she ever was. I expect that we age together.

But not all men are the same. And many can't honestly say yes. The question is whether you and your husband can work through this. Good luck.

Answer 5

There isn't a black and white answer for that question. Men are dogs by nature and women are monogamous by nature. It's just the way we are made up. For example: One Alpha male lion exist in any given pride. He mates with every female within that pride. While all the females in the pride are faithful to that one male. This is nature at it's best. The problem is that with the human race, nurture gets involved. If that male is taught to be monogamous, he will be monogamous.

Answer 6

You grow older together and sometimes grow bigger together as one person ages so does the other.
My parents are in there early 80s but for sure they still see each other the same as when they wed 60 years ago.
Each line that you suddenly notice on your face or @ss, your spouse has seen for years they just don't really notice and it's part of what makes you attractive to them.
All diamonds have flaws the cheap diamonds are the ones that look perfect.

Answer 7

Most men love their wives as they are. They married that woman, grew with her, cared for and about her and would do anything for her. Just because you grew a few more inches (which usually happens after children and with age), your love never changes. If you do everything you need to do as a wife and there are no major complaints- he is still in love with you unless he says different.

Answer 8

Been married for 15 years, and my wife is like a part of me and I am like a part of her. She has some flaws and I have mine, but we accept each other on our respective merits.
Oh, sure I might occasionally be distracted by a pretty face, and think of what could have been, but after a few minutes I realize that I had chosen my bride wisely.

In summary, it is the same for men, we sometimes show it differently.

Answer 9

I think you sound great. Enthusiasm and additude are so important. As long as you make a decent effort to stay in shape and put yourself together well (nice clothing, jewelry, make-up, perfume) than what more can a man want?

But, there is a difference between "not perfect" as you described yourself and a lady who has totally let herself go. A woman who has totally let herself go is basically telling her husband that she doesn't care enough to even make the effort to attract him anymore.

Answer 10

I love my wife with all of my heart. Sure she drives me nuts and neither of us are in the same shape we were when we got married, but there's no one else I would rather spend my life with. I admit I am human and I do see other women who are attractive and I know she sees attractive men, but at the end of the day, we come home to each other and that's what is important.