Are mood swings during pregnancy normal?

Question

My husband and I recently found out we were pregnant and shortly after that we got married. I have always loved him and always thought we were ment for each other but recently I am having these feelings of uncertanty. I am not sure if I want to stay married to him. Can I really live with him my whole life? I also feel a lot of resentment towards him and recently everything he does gets on my nerves. Is this a normal pragnancy feeling or am I really having feelings of not wanting to be married? It seems a little extreem but I do love him. But up until now I am feeling an estranged relationship with him and I am questioning the level of our relationship and hurting for my freedom back. I hope this is normal because I really want and pray for this to work out. We are 8 weeks along. Someone please help me!

Answer 1

Absolutely normal feelings you are experiencing. I got awful mood swings for the first trimester, but then it just went away. There will be times during your pregnancy that everything seems overwhelming. You may question him, yourself, and even your ability to be a good parent... but don't worry. Everything will be fine! Your emotions towards your husband are normal, too.. it will be like a rollercoaster something and you will be so utterly confused. One day you may absolutely love him and the next you want to punch him in the face. Just wait it out, though, and you'll realize that you still do really love him. Just let him know he has to be very supportive at this time... it's when you need it the most. It will get easier and in the 2nd trimester time you will become more comfortable with everything.

Answer 2

Oh yeah, your hormones are at an all time peak when you get pregnant becuase it's necessary for all the changes in your body and is responsible for the changes in your body as well. As for your feelings towards you husband? It can really depend. A lot of women have mixed feeling when they become pregnant- some are of uncertainty about becoming a mom and some are uncertainty of becoming a mom and having to do it w/ the particular partner they are with. These crazy things that happen in life have a way to spin our lives in unexpected directions and it's hard to hang on and make the best of it! Especially when these things that happen are babies and all of a sudden, poof! You're married. But we all find a way somehow, if we try. I'm sorry you feel this way and I understand your uncertainty. I'm dealing with the same myself. We are newly married and within a year I got pregnant, but it was before that when I noticed that everything he did drove me CRAZY! I definately wasn't very sure that he was the one I could stay with the rest of my life even though I love him. But when you're not sure he's the one that you can stick with for the rest of your life it makes these times of pregnancy that much harder. My advice is keep your head up and try not to focus any resentment at the pregnancy. I know I (guiltily) feel resentment toward my husband as well becuase now my uncertain feelings of "staying or going" are that much harder becuase now there will be a child involved. Your feelings are normal for your personal situation, but what is really going on is something only you can know and you could try waiting it out and seeing how you feel once your start to settle into this new marriage. Marriage alone is a huge adjustment and being pregnant is another. So for now you have someone who can be your partner and if it really isn't working you'll have to decide when you've had enough. No one can go on being unhappy forever. I wish you the best, I know it's tough.

Answer 3

I've been married for the past 2 years and i was only 18 when i got married at first it was so hard for me normalise with this husband and wife relationship i couldn't help always yelling at him telling him not to do stuff i dun like and those kinds of things but then we both got used the occasional ups and downs the arguments..... but now I'm still not 21.... and i feel I'm pregnant the feeling is killing me I'm not sure if i really m or not but i always wanted to live my life to the most before i had kinds because then it would just be the same my day and night would be 1 being around a baby its, its not that i dun want to have this baby .... its just that it wasn't planned so early..... the point is i guess that we both feel too scared about wants going to be our future especially with our babies ...

its normal believe me such form of Depression is part of Pregnancy. All the best.

Answer 4

Ha ha ha! YES...very normal. Just push those "feelings" aside and forget about them. I garuntee you, you will not feel this way in a few weeks. You are now pregnant and there is no longer a thing of "freedom". Do things together. Have fun. Laugh a lot if possible. Do tons of things together that you really won't be able to do when you have the baby. Also, find things about him you love and you will begin to see how much you truly love him. I swear, I was seriously the biggest hormonal b*tch on the planet, ha ha and I'm now 22 weeks and it's been SOOOO much better since week 12!

Answer 5

I have bad mood swings and my wonderful husband gets the brunt of it. But I never have the feeling that I don't want to be married to him. Before I was pregnant there where times I felt like I didn't want him but now that I am pregnant I know he is the one and only and I have not had any of those thoughts. So I do not think those thoughts are normal. You shouldn't have gotten married just b/c you were pregnant. Can you get it revoked and just marry each other later when you feel like it is the right time???
I am five weeks pregnant.

Answer 6

I felt that too when I first found out I was pregnant. I broke up with him and everything. But after acouple days of missing him, we got back together and all the love feelings came back. I guess its the reaction of knowing your having his baby and hes gonna have to be there no matter what for the rest of your life because of the baby. Getting married is okay because you can easily get divorce and move on with your life. But a baby is there forever so thats probaly why you feel that way because your life changed ALOT from the second you found out you were pregnant. Good luck and congrats!



*17 weeks pregnant =)

Answer 7

i think this is normal hormonal changes. I have had a roller coster with exactly how you are feeling my whole pregnancy, i am now over 39 weeks pregnant. I have gone through periods of disliking and questioning my relationship to periods of feeling really needy and lovey with him. Just try and get though this, it will get better at some point hopefully. I woldnt do anything major until you know for sure that it's not just hormone related. BEst of luck i hope you start to feel bette.r

Answer 8

I'm not sure how other women felt, but I was right there with you!! At about 8 weeks along I was so disgusted by my husband. I thought everything he did was repulsive. I'm not sure why, all these things never even kinda bothered me before. But they did go away after a few weeks. I hope that it's the same for you. (And I didn't feel that way again) Good luck I hope this helps!! :)

Answer 9

Yes mood swings are a big part of being pregnant, there were times I wanted to drive over my son's dad, when he did little or nothing at all. Get on your vitamins, take a deep breath, and relax, You will be like a Yo-Yo for the next 7-8 mo. I started going for walks and just getting out doors and fresh air helped, especially after it got warm.
Remember to sit back and enjoy it too. Do not get to overwhelmed you finally get to put on some weight and enjoy it. just stock up on flip flops, and slip on shoes.

SO YES TO SAY THE LEAST IT IS NORMAL, BEST WISHES FOR THE BOTH OF Y'ALL... P.S. From my math you are going to be pregnant through the summer, find a pool now... and if you can fit one on your porch, even if it is the small kid one with the liner and flimsy sides, about $15.00 at wal-mart get one.!!!, not the small hard plastic ones...

Answer 10

Everything is happening so fast. Maybe you realize that this is a big commitment. No matter what , you're both duty bound to this baby. The mood swings are normal. Maybe you should see someone together or by yourself. And/or take this time to straighten your relationship. Good luck