What do you think about this?

Question

I ended the relationship of father and daughter with my dad, because he wouldn't accept me dating a man out side of my race. (which means he would have terminated our relationship too if i kept seeing my boyfriend) is that good or bad?

Answer 1

it's a good thing, live your life babe!

Answer 2

I think it is sad that you had to end the relationship with your dad because of color. I guess if your boyfriend means that much to you then I think you did the right thing. Hopefully your dad will come around to your way of thinking soon but if not, I am sure he's missing out on a wonderful relationship with his daughter. It could be worse....you could have the same race boyfriend that I had and get the crap beat out of ya! Do you think your father would like that instead? Good-luck and just make sure that this guy is worth it.

Answer 3

While I think it's very good that you stood up for yourself and your own beliefs and you're helping to put a lid on racism, I also wonder if you had to go about it in such a dramatic way?

Like, did your father give you an ultimatum? Was he saying very rude and offensive things? It's sad when a parent-child relationship has to end, but I speak from experience when I say that sometimes it's much healthier that way. It's too bad your father couldn't love you, but still disagree with you, and still treat you with the respect you deserve. Perhaps you could talk to your dad and just ask that he still respect you and respect your boyfriend for the person he is? Although I know that it's usually too hard for someone like him to do that in a situation like this.

But good for you for standing up to stuff like that! Just because he's your father doesn't mean it's alright for him to put someone down because of their race. If either of my parents had been racist or against interracial relationships (which would be nuts, since I AM the child of an interraccial relationship), I wouldn't have tolerated it either.

Answer 4

I'm very sorry to hear about this. My mother would not accept my first husband because he was of another race. I too made the decision to walk away from family for love. No one from my family was at the wedding. I was sure I was making the right choice. Turns out the marriage didn't last more than five years and my mother passed away before we resolved our conflict. Hopefully your relationship will endure and with time, your father will come around. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

While I understand your reasons for doing it, consider this, life is short, things happen, what if your Dad was suddenly gone tomorrow how would you feel? I think you should try and come to an understanding with your father. Trust me, I have been through alot with my Dad but I'm glad that I have kept up the relationship. We find out tomorrow if he needs a biopsy for possible prostate cancer.

Answer 6

He will always be your father, you will always be his daughter no matter whom you date and/ or eventually marry (?)/ hook up with....
It IS your life and, presumably, you are now an adult and capable of making your own informed decisions. Your Dad's days of laying down the law are over (which obviously is difficult for him to accept).
I find it neither good nor bad, just sad that your father can't let you go and be the woman you've become.
Good luck!

Answer 7

That's just a sad situation all around. I hope that you will be able to repair your relationship with your father some day. Your father should be more concerned about whether you're happy and whether the guy is treating you well rather than the color of his skin.

Answer 8

If I were in a position to, I'd have done the same. What type of loving father wouldn't accept someone you care about? There's probably no reasoning with him either, because he seems to have a closed mind. It's his loss!

Answer 9

Sad, I hope he comes around but some people are stubborn, like in my family on my dad's side they don't accept any race other than white,and the ones who have mixed they talk about them behind their backs. My mom's side white,black,mexican, gay they don't care my grandmother says she loves all her great grand-kids.
people are people so why should it be that you and i should get along so awfully.
It's 2007 no one is pure breed anymore not in America anyways.

Answer 10

I have to assume you're very young to make this kind of decision. It's not a very good one. Regardless of who you date or even marry, you should keep the lines of communication open on your end even if they're closed on his. But you don't seem to know for sure that he would have severed ties with you. And even if he did, you're his child and his heart can't stay hard forever. Don't let yours be either.

Answer 11

It's neither. Your dad wasn't being fair to you, and you wanted to be happy. So you went with the guy, and one day you'll both get over it, and your dad will be there at your marriage, whether he likes the guy or not, he still loves you.