What do you do about those who smile to your face and talk behind your back?

Question

What if the other half of the time, they were quite good and helpful as friends?

Answer 1

I call it to their attention right before I leave, never to return. And that's the real deal too.

Answer 2

Smile to their face and then slug them in the back!


Well, in reality, I usually avoid them if I can do it without it being obvious. But when I do face them, I just do whatever I was doing without involving them when I can. I'm friendly and say "hi," but I don't talk to them if I can help it, but I don't put on a big show about it, either. I usually act happy around them. The thing I hate when I do that is that they never seem to get that I enjoy their presence about as much as they enjoy mine. They usually think I'm having a grand ol' time and that their annoyance is one-sided. Sometimes that has advantages, but not always.
Now what I'm supposed to do and what's good advise for when that happens? I guess I should turn the other cheek and love them anyway. Good advise? I don't know. What I do is probably the best thing I can think of, though I'm sure It's far from the best. Maybe defend your position if you have the chance and it comes naturally. But remember that no matter who you are, someone's going to talk bad about you. So I usually try to remember that and not let it get to me.

Answer 3

I think they are human.

Really…we can all pretend to be good people, but who hasn’t had a mean thing to say about someone else? I also expect you to be honest with yourself when you answer that question. The fact of the matter is that human beings want people to like them, and also want to feel good about themselves. Now, many of us are not chronic with our backstabbing, but at some point in your life, we are all guilty.

The best thing to do in those situations is to ignore the bad things others may say and focus on the good they do. We are all human, and will have flaws. The best thing we can do is accept our friends, family, and most importantly, ourselves. If someone is backstabbing with words, it is important not to judge them and stoop to their level. It is best to move on with your life secure in the fact that you are happy enough with the life you have that no foul words can touch you.

Then, and only then, will you rise above the pettiness that is backstabbing.

Answer 4

The opposite of what I do to those who talk to my face and smile behind my back.

Answer 5

Hmmm, that's a tough one dear man, you just keep on being the same person that you always are, not resenting them, just giving them a chance to see you are not as naive as they may think, I personally bless them, wish them well and it all turns around, I've noticed people somehow ended up making some kind of remark about something and really learned what would motivate them to do such things. It is all one word:
Envy, not much one can do about it. Just live and keep on keeping on!!

Answer 6

Stab them with a really big knife.

J/K I had some friends like that once. The one who apologized is still my friend. The other is now known only as Ratface. And Banana-****.

Answer 7

The nice thing to do is nothing. But, knowing me as I do if someone said something about my leopard outfit-I'd say, well I didn't know you were going to underdress.

Answer 8

Ignore them. Don't smile back.

Answer 9

Turn the other cheek.

It's not my place to judge, but I can also choose to no longer associate with that person. That's just common sense.

Answer 10

Know that what goes around comes around, and continue being myself.