I have a close guy friend who has a girlfriend. I knew that before we really got to know each other. I started noticing that he's flirting a lot with me and has said once that "if circumstances were different, he would definitely delve into me". After that I've decided to put a distance between us because I'm not the type of woman to make a man cheat. Was he really genuine or was it just a game? Did I do what was right?
2007-03-08 08:11:36 · 23 answers · asked by Nuela07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You were smart not to play that mind game.A guy especially a decent one would not even mention a potential relationship unless the one he is in is over.
You're a smart girl.Move on.Trust your instinct and you will find a good match.
2007-03-08 08:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by tylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely girl!, you don't need to put yourself into a situation like that! The guy sounds like a true player to me! Whether he seems like a "nice guy" or not, really has no role in whether on is a player or not, trust me! ... You have the best intentions and unfortunately for this girl, it will only be a matter of time until she see this side of him... for her sake, I hope it isn't when it is too late. I wouldn't bother saying anything to her either, small chance there she is going to Ever believe you! ... Especially if she really really likes this guy or loves the guy!, and it's coming from "just some other girl of the street" kind of thing, not sure if she knows you or not, but it doesn't really matter either way again anyway if she did or didn't... You made a wise choice. Protect #1, ok!, Think about it, "if the guy is doing it with you while he's with her, what stops you Seriously believing he wouldn't do the same to you at one point?" ... Words to live by ...
Take Care & Good Luck!
2007-03-08 16:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by staying out of his relationship with his gf. Things could get really nasty and you would end up the loser. There are a million guys out there looking for a girl like you so go find that special someone!
2007-03-08 16:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how this is! If he was being serious about wanting to be with you then he would dump his girlfriend. you did a good thing putting distance between you two. That's the only thing that stopped my situation too. You will probably end up just getting hurt if you continue your relationship. kudos to you.
2007-03-08 16:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by cyndaylou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His girlfriend probably doesn't give him much affection anymore, so he's seeking some from you. Probably harmless, but friends are easy to cheat with. Stay at a distance if you don't want to come between them
2007-03-08 16:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by jesse d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely did the right thing and you should be proud of yourself.
Obviously he's not as happy in his current relationship as he could be and he needs to recognize that and make some changes before giving attention to another woman.
2007-03-08 16:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by mykidsrsaints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was probably genuine and i think you deffinitly did the right thing but dont break the relationship you have with him as a friend.You should also let him no that you'll be for anything and that he should give the girl a chance but you will always be there in the end
2007-03-08 16:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well-done for keeping a distance! I think that the easy guide in dating is to ask yourself a question "is he available". And is the answer is "no", then keep looking for an available one. Good luck!
2007-03-08 16:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think that hes showing you just what kind of guy he is. he might be a great friend but hes not a great gf. you were right to leave him alone. think about that girl, she has no idea what hes telling you, and as for sincerity. . . . well think bout it, if hes doing this to her how do you know that he wouldn't do it to you? he likes things he doesn't have! i think you made a good decision. that girl would hate you if you broke them up! good job!!!
2007-03-08 16:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Katrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what he is really thinking, maybe he just want something on the side, or he is just a very flirty person. Regardless, you did the right thing.
2007-03-08 16:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by Evangeless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋