let me put it this way: i married her because she got pragnet, she cheated on me, she gained a lots of wait (she more then double my size) and i can't get over the fact that she has been with another man. She promissed to change to keep the marriage together but her change last a day or two then back to the boring marriage ( no talk, not enough sex).we have nothing in cumon but the two children we have. should i stay to make sure the kids get all they need?
2007-03-08 08:07:06 · 20 answers · asked by Neo7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No....you can still make sure that the kid's needs are met without living with her. You have rights as a parent....but be prepared to pay child support and alimony if she doesn't work. Life is too short to be so unhappy. I always thought that getting married over pregnancy was the wrong way to start a marriage. Marriage should be based on love, trust, honesty, and respect.
2007-03-08 08:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stupid men!
You DONT need to get married if you get a girl pregnant. You obviously dont value marriage.
If you have sex with a woman you can create a child. Use protection, understand the repercussions and if not, stay celibate.
Women gain weight when they have children. Its a fact. Men gain weight as they age and they wrinkle too. Maybe she should trade you in for a younger, thinner model as well?
A woman shouldnt let herself go completly but it sure sounds like she isnt happy with you. I doubt I would be.
It takes 2.
PS I feel sorry for these kids and the example they have.
2007-03-08 16:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it does more harm to the kids in the long run. once a spouse cheats the relationship will never be the same and won't work out. so get out now or you'll cause more pain to you children down the line. dont have some big cutody battle though, unless she decides to. try to work something out together which will be better for the kid, bc the kids need you both still. so, go.
2007-03-08 16:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by greenhorns99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW I think you should go back to school or use spell checker?
Example: Pragnet it's pregnant
Cumon it's common etc
Good luck friend
2007-03-08 16:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never stay for the children. They know that you and your wife aren't happy they feel the tension. I just left my husband after 10 years of marriage and two kids. My kids have never been happier. I didn't realize how unhappy they were until we got away from the bad relationship. Just don't stay because you think it is best for the kids.
2007-03-08 16:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married because of pregnancy is wrong to begin with. I wouldn't stay if things didn't improve and sounds like it's not going to either. Pay child support and get visitation for the children so that you can see that they are being taken care of. I wish you the best of luck !
2007-03-08 16:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im a lesbian so try to bear with me. I feel in love with a girl and she cheated on me with a guy so I left her and now she is pregnet by the guy that she cheated on me with. I miss her. I wish I would have never have left her. Even though she did cheat on me. If she wasnt pregnet I would want her back. So I dont know I thought I would be happer without her but I wasnt thinking of how happy she made me. I dont know if that helps.
2007-03-08 16:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by Guera o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two aren't in love with each other, then no, do not work it out. However, if you WISH you could work it out and have a decent marriage again, go to marriage counseling. It really does work when you find the right person to work with.
2007-03-08 16:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stay for the kids sake, maybe the two of you could get some counselling and rekindle what attracted the two of you together in the first place. Don't put your kids lives at stake.
2007-03-08 16:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only stay if you want to and are happy. your children will suffer more in the long run watching you two fight and be unhappy. you can still be a father and take care of your kids.
2007-03-08 16:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by misty a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋