teenage pregnancy?

Question

one of my really good friends thinks that she might be pregnant. Her period is late. She told me that she used a condom and i'm pretty sure that she was on birth control for cramps or something. Is it possible that she's pregnant? I'm really worried about her. She's only 14, it was her first time having sex, and her boyfriend (who is 2 years older) broke up with her right after. I'm worried about her. help!

(and, no, i'm not talking about myself. i'm a virgin, thank you very much :) )

Answer 1

She may be pregnant or not... If she was on birth control pills and used a condom correctly, the chances are that she isn't. However, it's not 100% sure. Often, late periods are due to the stress of concern over having had sex for the first time, concern about pregnant, and worries about breaking up with the bf. She should have a pregnancy test done right away, and speak to someone about her concerns. At 14, in most states, she can obtain confidential pregnancy & reproductive health care without notifying her parents, if that is a concern for her.
And, by the way, congratulations to you on your own good choices, as well as your non-judgmental concern for your friend!

Answer 2

Okay there are just a few things I can say and hopefully they will help.
1) Find out if she is pregnant... there is nothing you can do to help if she doesn't know
2) I'm going through the same thing, I am fourteen, one of my friends, although she is 17, just found out on Monday she is 5 months pregnant. Support her as much as possible if she is, trust me pregnancy's can cause a lot of stress especially when they are unplanned.
3) If she is pregnant, allow her to make the choices and support her. My friend was planning on aborting the child but found she couldn't because she was too far along... I am not in any way saying that abortion is always right, but I am saying that it is a personal decision and nobody can make it for her. Also if parents aren't an issue you might want to talk to her about adoption, it would give the child, hopefully, a good home if the mother is incapable of providing such.
4) Tell her parents ONLY if you can... my friends parents just found out and trust me when I say her and I both wish they hadn't of. but if you and her feel that they will understand, even if at first they are angry, tell them. My friend's parents want to control the pregnancy now that they know and although she wants to put the child up for adoption... the parents want to try and force her to keep it.

I hope this helps and I would also tell the boyfriend if she is, it is possible that he was just using her to get what he wanted.

and congrats on your virginity, it is a very good accomplishment especially in todays society. ( I am also one)

Answer 3

First of all, there is usually some place in your local town where a young girl can go to get a pregnancy test for free ... whether it is a Shelter or a Church Outreach Program, or even the local Public Health Clinic.

Then ... with the knowledge of the fact that she IS Sexually Active, SHE needs to sit down and TELL her Parents that YES, she IS Sexually Active, and that she needs their support at this time ... and a bit of parental GUIDANCE on when to WAIT and when to know that the BOY is just victimizing her. IF she needs help to talk to her parents, or needs someone there to support her, then by all means give her that support, but ...

SHE needs to talk about the situation HERSELF.

This is VERY SERIOUS, and yes, she CAN be pregnant (especially since we are talking about TWO young 'kids' who really don't consider the full consequences -- and may not have used the condom in the first place!).

Answer 4

go get a test to see or she may just be wanting attention since the guy she thought would last longer(excuse the pun)has gotten what he wanted and left a lot of guys like to get the virgin and be able to claim it or have a contest with their buddies about sleeping with someone especially a virgin her period could be late because of the stress but to be sure go to the store get a test and dont go to planned parenthood i went their thinking i could get a free test and they charged me 20 bucks for something i coulda got for 8 at a grocery store the only thing planned parenthood can do if the test is positive is fill out a paper for the state about medicaid or medicare if she doesnt have insurance for a doctor plus it gives the state a statistic for them to know about teen pregnancy whatever the test proves just tell her hey its this now if its negative say well good that was a scare hope next time you wait or use pills and a condom so it doesnt happen since being on the pill and taking it are two different things taking it is effective being on it is taking it when you remember or being able to tell a guy that yrah i got protection im on the pill which doesnt mean jack it means that its unprotected sex and she could get pregnant good luck to you both

Answer 5

The chance of getting pregnant depends on whether she takes her birth control pills every day or not...Uhm i missed my period once and wasn't pregnant, but then 4 months after i missed again and found out that now I'm 8 weeks pregnant:)
Ne-ways have her go to the pharmacy and get a test or call her doctor and make in confidential..
Well good luck:)

Answer 6

She could be pregnant... take a home pregnancy test or go to a clinic where they give free tests.
She isn't pregnant... sometimes stress or other factors can affect a girls period, or because she is still very young, her period is not regular and can start early or late each month.
Either way, you should tell her to talk to her parents or a counsler. She is too young to be having sex.

Good for you being a virgin!!

Answer 7

It doesn't matter to me who you're talking about. I think your friend was taken advantage of and that's wrong. It is possible, I'm sorry to say. She's so young. She really needs you and she needs to talk to her mother right away. Maybe you can go with her [if she wants you to] and talk to her mother. This is very sad. I know many people will say she should have 'kept her legs shut' or 'don't have sex!' and of course she shouldn't have been. I know that. But the sad fact is, is that she DID have sex and she needs help. I'm glad she has you, you seem very mature and level headed. But remember this is not your responiblity. Do what you can for her and have her speak to her mother. Yes, it will be hard for her but in the end there's really nothing else she can do.

Answer 8

Anytime a person has sex, there is a possibility of pregnancy. She needs to do the following:
1. Get a preg test.
2. Tell her mom (if it's positive)
and if it is
3. Start looking at her options....abortion shouldn't be one of them....
Have her look at the website.

Now if she's not pregnant she may want to consider the benefits of abstinence....it's impossible to get pregant or sick that way!

And good for you!

Answer 9

Take your little selves to the drugstore and buy a test or go to planned parenthood, they'll do one for free. If she used two forms of birthcontrol, she's probably pretty safe. The stress is probably delaying her period. She's obviously not ready for the potential responsibilities of having sex and needs to stop. Best of luck.

Answer 10

wow that's sad for her...i'm 17 and pregnant and i was really scared at first... but it's not the end of the world...my boyfriends sister got pregnant at the age of 15 and ended up the valeditorian of her gradutating class and now has 3 kids and runs the OB of a hospital...if she is pregnant just support her as much as you can and help her find a way to tell her parents(that's really scary) just let her know it's no the end of the world and even though it seems really really tought and you wont be able to do it you can....