I live in a really rich town. But my family dosnt have a lot of money, we only live here for the schools. Our house is tiny and needs a lot of work. We bought it to fix it up, but it is taking forever (over 3 years now). The inside is always a mess because nobody every has time to clean, my parents are always at work and my brother and I have school. Im embarrassed to invited people over to my house because it seems so gross to me. But i also feel bad never inviting my friends over, and only going to their houses. What should i do?
2007-03-08 07:52:38 · 44 answers · asked by shylaugh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell them you had no choice in choosing your parents.
2007-03-08 07:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
It really wouldn't hurt if you and your brother pitched in and cleaned things up a bit. I know your mom would really appreciate the help. School or no school there is no excuse if YOUR room is a total disaster. Clean up after yourself.
Then have your friends over and you won't feel so embarrassed. The condition and size of a house has nothing to do with your friends being your friends. But, if you want to feel comfortable when you have them over just clean up a little bit. If you feel at ease so will they.
Lack of money or a tiny fixer upper is not an excuse to live in a messy or dirty house. You don't have to be rich to be clean. And clean does count. Just take it one room at a time and see the difference you will make.
If anyone says anything, WHICH THEY WON'T. Just tell them 'yeah, we bought this house to remodel but, who has the time'!
Good Luck and Happy Cleaning!
2007-03-08 08:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is well understood. And just note that if you are inviting friends its only a few things that can happen.
For one they would not care what your place look like they are their for you no matter the mess in your home.
Two if they really have an issue with it then they will help you clean little at a time to help take some of the pressure of you. Have a cleaning party. Once at your place one at theirs.
Three if they have a lot to say and wont help or wont come because of it then you know who your real friends are.
Last but not least.If you have time to go to thier house then you have time todo a little at a time to make your home presentable. Beside if its nasty to you then you should want to do it some justice. Just clean your area where you would have your friends.
2007-03-08 08:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kae D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you stopped to think of how many people in the world don't have the riches you have? You have a roof over your head, sounds like a good pair of parents trying to get you and your brother a good education. Also sounds like your not starving and probably don't have an outhouse instead of indoor plumbing. Count your blessings. Anyone you invite over that has anything bad to say about your home is not worth having as a friend. All you have to do is take a little time to straighten up and get the clutter out of the way. I wish you well.
2007-03-08 08:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, since there's no school I know of that runs much past 3:30 or so, why can't you take 1/2 hour and clean up for your folks? And what about on weekends? You want to have friends over, clean up a bit. Sounds like your folks are trying to give you great opportunities in life, the least you could do is pick up the laundry and sweep the floor. You'll apppreciate all this when you are older and have kids of your own.
2007-03-08 07:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I remember when I was in High School and Jr hight I was SO embarrassed to have any of my friends over, cause I was the poor one when all of my other friends lived in these huge nice house. I lived in a trailer with my family of 7. Once I felt comfortable with the friends I hung out with I invited only my closest friends over, sure I still I got made fun of by a few people who were shallow. Once I was comfortable with who I was I didn't care what people said about they way I lived. I even joked about it. When someone would laugh at me I would laugh right with them. You gain a huge amount of respect that way. Its hard but The way to gain a good reputation is to endeavor to be what you desire to appear. So if you wanna be the guy who is embarrassed of they way you live, then thats what you will look like. If you wanna be the guy who doesn't care what other people thinks about you. Than whats what you will be!
People who cant respect that. Needs to grow up alittle. Dont let those people bring you down.
2007-03-08 08:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husbands family had (has) roaches crawling everywhere!!! I I loved and married him anyway, but I can see how a mess, or lack of nicer things would embarrass you. If you feel uncomfortable, always go to your friends houses. And when you get your own place, you'll have the option to keep it clean. In the mean time you can tell your parents how embarrassing it is, maybe it can open some eyes. Good luck.
2007-03-08 08:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your house is tiny and needs work, no one will mind. If it's dirty, that's another story. Start with eliminating clutter, that is the first thing people will see. Maybe just try to clean a few key rooms (Bathroom and Kitchen for sure, then either LR or your room or wherever you'll be hanging out!)
Invite your friends over...they will be happy just to hang. Besides maybe they feel uptight in large TOO-clean homes!
2007-03-08 07:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by loves2sing 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they are truely your friends, they will accept you for who you are and the way your house looks will not matter. If you invite them over and they stop being your friends because of the way your house looks, they were never your friends in the first place. I say invite them over and see what happens. Just warn then ahead of time that it isnt the nicest place around but your family is working on it.
2007-03-08 08:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling and I am 35 years old. I do not like people to see my house if it is not just right. All I can tell you is your real friends will not care about how your house looks.
What I would do if I was you, is do you best to make the house clean a presentable. Who cares if the house is small and in ill repair if the dishes are done and the toilet is clean.
2007-03-08 07:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by foolograce72 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a situation like this, if you're always going to your friends house; start letting them know why you don't invite them. They might suprise you and be truly understanding about it. I know you don't have the time to keep things clean (and probably a lot of it isn't your mess to begin with) but you could always try and put in some effort, you know? But I would definitely let them know why =)
2007-03-08 07:57:36 · answer #11 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋