we are still married and we have two kids. i'm still with her because i don't want the kids to grow up without there father but i don't love her anymore. I have met someone else that travels the world because of her job (my dream) and i'm startting to fall in love with her but i'm affraid if i marry her things might not work out as the time pass by. at least that's what i've learned from my first marriage.
2007-03-08 07:44:37 · 21 answers · asked by Neo7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OH honey!!! The GRASS IS NOT GREENER!!!!! You will have a whole new set of problems to deal with! Think this out really well!!!!!! Don't allow yourself to make the biggest mistake of your life! Your children need you in their lives!!
2007-03-08 07:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes about the same effort to work out your old relationship as it would take to start to build a new one.
At this time, you need to make an intelligent decision.
Marriages can be resucitated.
Seek a marriage counsellor, tell your wife what you like and your wife tell you what she likes then the two of should work at it.
I don't think it is a nice thing to destroy the family unit of 'father and mother' that your children have come to know because of a piece of ***, that travels round the world, tomorrow you will start complaining she does not stay at home to cook your food or that she is sleeping around.
You had better concentrate on your marriage and make it work, don't fail at your marriage be a real man.
2007-03-08 08:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Pink_Zirconia!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You choose to marry your wife and start a family so stop daydreaming and come back to reality!
The grass is NOT greener on the other side. Love changes and grows. You may feel you are out of love and once you are apart realize what you actually had. Look at the dreams you share with your wife and build on that. Focus on the future you had planned together instead of the mundane of today. Keep your fantasies just that- an escape from the day to day routine but realize you are in charge of your happiness and not you love for your wife or her love for you. Its not easier nor better to walk away.
If you dont find it within you, you will not find it within someone else.
2007-03-08 08:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuation! What a wonderful feeling isn't it? Are you falling in love with the idea of her traveling the world or the person she presents herself to be? Think about it - your wife gets the real you...the guy who leaves the seat up, farts in his sleep and has dragon breath in the morning. The guy who is excepted for all of your flaws...because she loves you. This new person doesn't know the same person - and will she still care about you when she does?
AND -- you talk about traveling the world with her? How long do you think she'll be able to handle you freeloading off of her?
If the real issue is your marriage, taking the mistress out of the equation, then that's another story.
It is a HUGE disappointment to read this and know that you are okay with being a deadbeat dad who won't see his kids if he divorces!
2007-03-08 07:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by jennw33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you first have to ask yourself why you don't love your wife anymore. You don't just fall out of love with someone. Marriage, children, & time changes everything. Divorce is never easy on anyone. My theory is why swap one set of problems for the other. The next women will be the same way after the new wears off. I would suggest working on your relationship with your wife. Maybe just you and her need to take a vacation. If you want to travel the world do it with your family. Good Luck!
2007-03-08 07:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by christy1001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
chances of the same thing happening again are good, u seem to keep looking when ever u don't feel the love anymore. u will most likely go through life moving from one woman to the next, seeking the perfect one, but u won't find her, because she doesn't really exist. falling in love is easy its staying in love that's the real challenge. u need to stay with the one u made the commitment to, and raise your children, even if u think u have found better. leaving family for someone else will hurt your wife and kids alot. u loved her once, enough to marry her, can't u find something u love in her, because what u make happen to your wife will come back to u in the form of karma.
2007-03-08 07:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't punish the second woman because you were hurt in your marriage. not everyone is the same. your kids will know that you are their father and always will be regardless of anything, but they are entitled to a relationship with another guy if your wife finds someone else (and this is assuming you do divorce). you can still visit, get joint custody, still see them at times like christmas or their birthdays. you should never use the kids as an excuse to stay together when you are not happy. if you aren't happy, leave. chances are she isn't either. everyone deserves a chance at happiness. give this other woman a chance. you may be pleasantly surprised.
2007-03-08 08:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 15:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by turnbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never believed in staying in a marriage for the kids only. Children learn by what they see, and do you want them to grow up and have a marriage that they don't show love, and don't love the person they are with? Everyone deserves happiness, and you are not in love or committed to your wife. I would say the two of you need to call it quits before things start to get worse.
Best of luck.
2007-03-08 07:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you put thee effort forth to save your marriage and fall in love all over again with your wife ,that is if she is a moral woman. It can be done. We did it many years ago and my husband and I could not love each other any more then we do today. HE is wonderful to me and I think he is the best man and husband that ever walked the face of this earth.
Won't you give it a hard try for the sake of family ????
Today we have 5 happily married children. We will celebrate our 54th wedding ann. on April 6,07. Looking forward to growing older together. God bless you and yours ~~Jill~~
2007-03-08 08:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a whiny feminist. I want to travel, I need to find myself, I don't want to be tied down, wahh, wah, wah.
You're not a man! You're just a male! You chose to marry her, promise her forever and have kids with her. You didn't fulfill your vows and promises and your kids will suffer because you don't have the cojones (that's Spanish for balls!) to stand up and be a man.
Here's what you do. Get yourself a copy of "10 Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives" and a copy of "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. You say "sayonara" to Ms. Jet-set and you go BACK TO YOUR WIFE!
Men like you give GOOD men a bad name!
2007-03-08 07:59:20 · answer #11 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋