If your fantasy, your ideal, suddenly came into your life and offered you the choice to be with them or your spouse/mate/etc. Would you stay, or would you go?
Your partner isint perfect, niether are you, but we all have our ultimate partner lodged inside our minds that we compare every other person we are with to. They have your idea of the perfect body, personality, demenor, intellegence, and temperment, but will you have the same love for them as you do toward your mate? Mabye you will mabye you won't. But the question is would you leave your partner to find out IF your perfect ideal fantasy companion offered you the choice. What would you do and why? Tell Matticus he WANTS to KNOW.
2007-03-08 07:39:39 · 15 answers · asked by Matticus Kole 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
My husband is my ideal mate. He's by far not perfect or dreamy, but he's everything (looks, attitude, sense of humor, demeanor, intelligence, and every minor detail in-between) that I sought after or fantasized about. Maybe I just had a reasonable fantasy, I don't know.
2007-03-08 07:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmm. I don't know. I don't plan to marry ... ever. So, sure, I would go.
And I'd like to take issue with your claim that "everyone has a picture of their ultimate partner inside their minds." We forget how much of our "ultimate partner" has been brought into existence not by ourselves, but by our social conditioning - what we have been convinced by society and friends and parents and pictures and media and our entire history that we want or are supposed to want. The people we are always already surrounded by (because none of us can live in a vacuum - we always exist on earth with other people) trick us into believing that what we want is what _we ourselves_ want, when it is really only what others have wanted and "handed down," so to speak, over the course of history.
Really your question folds back on itself: if such a thing even exists as an "ideal mate," then a person should of course unquestioningly love his/her "ideal mate" infinitely - as much as or more than his/her current, non-ideal partner. That is part of the job description of being an "ideal mate." So there should, in this case, be no reason a person should _not_ leave his/her current partner for the ideal mate. By suggesting that a person "might not" love this ideal mate as much as a current partner is at the same time to suggest that there is no such thing as an ideal mate; if it is possible for one to not love his/her ideal mate, then what's ideal about it? Nothing. There is no ideal mate.
2007-03-08 08:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we all have a perfect mate in te world, the unfortunet thing is we are so eager to belong and have one that we head the naturl corse of life. and end up with some one almost . and end up herting so many people in the mean time .Truly this is your choice .can you be sure this person is the one and always will be or are you laking something in the one you are with that you are not fixing . As long as you are out there looking you will never , never be happy with what you have . there will always be some out there that is what you want at different levels of your life . are you going to quit on another one . I will tell you this you will be sitting one day and wonder why you were so stupid and didn't try to make that one work they were the one , always was always will be and you will never be happy the same way again. as any one that has bean married more then once ask you self about the ones you have left behind . do sole search deeply about your decision you could be making a very big mistake . my answer is no , I made my choice and I am going to make it work .
2007-03-08 07:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
certainty is marvelous….myth is real. there is not any separation of worlds…. The myth international…the dream international….is purely as real and as valid as the different perceptions that we've. The dream international is unquestionably greater real simply by fact it somewhat is the reason for the right here and now. each and every thing that occurs now's the consequence of a dream that replaced into in someones head at one element…. To dream is to be god-like… to have a theory and happen it into certainty is amazingly a mystical act is it not?? “looking down on empty streets, all she will see Are the desires all made good Are the desires all made real each and all the homes, all of those vehicles have been as quickly as basically a dream In somebody's head” ~Peter Gabriel “Lorca warned…pay attention, and pay attention, and pay attention…..earlier you waft off, don’t overlook, that's to assert undergo in concepts. simply by fact remembering is plenty greater a psychotic pastime than forgetting. Lorca, in that comparable poem, reported that the iguana will chew people who do not dream. And, as one realizes, that one is a dream-discern in yet another guy or woman’s dream: it is self-understanding!” ~velocity Levitch yet whilst there is an astrological dynamic that exhibits no remember if or not somebody struggles to go away the myth international I actual have it simply by fact I used to conflict with this….then I found out to settle for my psychological states and savour the information that could be gained from following those desires anyplace they could take you.
2016-10-17 21:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely stay with my present mate. A fantasy is just a fantasy and it never is truly what it's cracked up to be. I have someone wonderful who becomes my ideal more and more each day. We love eachother BECAUSE of our differences, short-comings and imperfections. A relationship is only worth what you're willing to put into it. If it's going to be perfect to begin with, there's no room for it to grow and there is no effort required to maintain it. It makes the link seem superficial and meaningless.
2007-03-08 07:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I left and have no regrets. I left a good man, but go toward a good man and a Spiritual path, the Spiritual path that is right for me. No matter what happens, I know now that I am right where I belong and will be going Home in this lifetime. With the one, I had lost my way, with the fantasy, which is my reality, I am going Home.
2007-03-08 10:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well years ago out of boredom I wrote down how i want my life to be and included are the qualities I want in a man .. lo and behold after 3 years I met someone with all of the qualities I wanted. We got engaged a year after we met, were married the following year after our engagement and everyday I'm thankful for having found the man I know may not be perfect but is perfect for me. so, no i wouldn't leave my spouse for my fantasy companion. he is it :)
2007-03-08 07:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by max 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never leave my husband for anyone or anything. Because I have learned from experience life that the grass is not greener on the otherside. Although it may look like it but it never is.
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2007-03-08 07:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by mary3127 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes,cuz I have, and we've had and have a great time . true love or companionship are hard to find so most of us settle just not to be alone. BUT BEWARE. cuz what you think is your fantisy mate might just be a wolf in sheeps clothing!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-08 08:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by david c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with my present lover. God, I broke enough hearts already, hah. I am not one who is going to break anymore. I have changed. lol
2007-03-08 07:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by oscar c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋