Is he cheating?

Question

My partner and I have the same phone i picked up his by accident any way I found a bunch of text messages to this female. They were making plans to meet at her place and also to go out for her birthday and to go out for lunch. and a lot of call me messages. He has never send me a text message. He goes out quit a bit last Friday and Staturday he's stay out all night and say he was too high or to drunk to drive home so he stayed at his friends house. So is he cheating?

2 phones look the same

Answer 1

Well cheating is always a difficult thing to contemplate. Why do some do it and others avoid at the risk of death. Statistics tell us that about 50% of all men have cheated and about 63% of all women, at some point during their life. I think that indicates human nature, not sin or weakness, so do what you want, but i don't ultimately think its the end of the world should either party have a little sex on the side.
Yes he is cheating, now ask yourself is it worth the end of your marriage?

Answer 2

I am really sorry Linda but I think he is. I mean what other evidence do you need? You can always ask him just to see his reaction. Just explain to him that you looked by mistake his messages and that everything shows that he is cheating on you and wait for his aswer. There is a small chance that all these are just a big missunderstanding but you have to know before you make any decisions? And offcourse this is my opinion but remember that whatever the case is at the end, you can decide if you want to give your boyfriend a second chance or not. Can you trust him? If not then fly away!There are actually guys that don't cheat even if you have to search a lot to find them..

Answer 3

well it does not LOOK good but appearances can be deceiving also...I think you need to talk with him about all of this, if he denies it then keep your eyes and ears open and the truth will come out. I am a firm believer that everything done in the dark ALWAYS comes to the light. Guard your heart and try to prepare yourself (that is easier said then done but you have to) for the possibility that he may be cheating. Your heart and gut will know if he is and if and when you know, don't pretend that you don't know. Everyone deserves honesty from their husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend

Hold your head up and know that there is someone for everyone and if it is not this person, God has someone for you that will not cheat on you...whether it is this person or another

Answer 4

well, from the way you are explaining the messages I would say its a good possibility.I know this is wishful thinking but could this women be a relative or a friend that you know but don't recognize their number? I just always hate to jump to conclusions without total proof.I say you do a little research on this completely on your own and for now stay quiet about this till you have proof.Nothing worse than questioning someone without proof and giving them the chance to cover it up so that you are never able to know for sure if they are lying or not.Just have patience and follow him when he least expects it.When you see with your own eyes, there is nothing he can do but come clean.Then you can dump him to the curb without a minutes remorse.

Answer 5

My dearest Linda....think old sayings. "If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck"....then guess what?

To begin, he can't be very smart if he texts his cutie on the side with the same phone you use as well. In addition...were I him I would take great..and I mean great pains to keep this from you. He apparently doesn't seem to care for your feelings. Finally...I'm curious. Do you find a man who calls and says "I'm too drunk and/or high to come home" a real catch? Had i ever used a line like that with my wife she'd comment..."Come home? What home?". She wastes no time in making a point. Probably comes from living with a sarcastic ******* like me all these years.
So i'd like to say 'Relax...I'm sure there's an excuse thats reasonable for all of this'. However...I surely can't think of one. be interesting to see what he comes up with. in the meantime, should he come home sporting an erection and want to fool around...I'd hesitate until I knew where I stood in the grand scheme of things here.

The best of luck to you. I'd be prepared for lies and fairy tales if you confront him.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, I'd have to say yes. Confronting him won't do any good, because he'll just lie. Keep it to yourself until you truly feel that you can move on and deal with it. Think about it and analize what you think the outcome would be. You will know when you decide it's time for you to know, because your heart can only take so much. Good luck to you and I hope that what does not kill you makes you stronger.

Answer 7

Not only is he cheating, but he's stupid. Leaving the text messages in his phone without deleting them? What was he thinking??? Take heart though...at least this is probably the first time he's done this. Otherwise, he would be better at it.

Answer 8

It most certainly sounds like it..... take it from someone that's been through it, first you have your suspicions, then you have your evidence. Now you need to take a step back, take a deep breath and let him know that you're aware of his on goings and as painful as it might be. You need to say Goodbye and definitely be done with guy. You don't deserve this type of pain. Good luck.

Answer 9

Yes honey he is mos def doing something....the question you need to ask yourself is has he changed within the last couple of weeks...If you started noticing him hanging out more...and doing stuff he hasnt done in a long long time then that means something has changed in his life...so i would have a serious talk with him to see whats going on

Answer 10

he most certainly is, i would find out where they are going to hook up, and show up, and confront them. a man who stays out all night is somewhere isn't he? don't let him know u know, than just show up where there at and the only thing it will do is allow u to see with your own eyes and he will either come home with u or go live with her. but when u catch him, u need to be ready to make your decision on what u want to do about his cheating.