i'm about to go crazy?

Question

okay... long story short.
I dated this guy for almost 3 years, we broke up, don't talk anymore..
my dad doesn't give me the time of day.. just because he has a new family, and i don't go to private school.
my brother went to private school,then failed out of college, and now... he is jail.
my mom is about to drive me crazy!!! she is going through another divorce and i done with dealing with it. She puts me in the middle of it, and when her husband gets mad at her. He brings me into, and she lets him..

so i am 18 years old.. with a 476 payment for a vehicle and 600 for rent in my appt. plus EVERYTHING else..

do ya'll think i can have a good future?

i have my GED and i am in college majoring in business

its so hard to keep everything together

Answer 1

I think it's amazing that you have so much going on in your life and you've still managed to keep everything together. And at only 18! I think your on your way to having a great future. It shows that you have ambition, drive and commitment. You WANT a good future and that makes a difference. If you didn't want it, then you wouldn't be killing yourself for it.

I think it's right that you don't live with either of your parents. It sounds like, at this point, they are just adding unwanted, unneeded stress into your already hectic life. Tell your mom that you can't deal with her and her (ex)husband's issues at this time.

If you're looking to ease the burden of your finances, maybe think about finding a roommate. I don't know what else you're paying for, but having a roommate will cut your living expenses in half. Or you could move to a dorm if your college offers them. Many student loans offer student the option of paying back the money once they graduate. If you do that, then that would be no rent you'd need to pay.

Also, how old is your car? Is it in your name? Because if it's in your name and you've already paid a good bit on it, you can refinance and get a lower monthly note.

No matter what, keep on truckin' - eventually, it will get easier. You'll make it because so far you're doing spectacularly.

Answer 2

Lady, join the Air Force!!

You get a very good pay! Can go into what ever field that you want to! You get four years training in your new profession, no rent, no utility bills. Can continue with college education with the Government picking up most of the tab! 30 days paid vacation each year. Medical and dental covered at NO cost to you!

You have a beautiful future, live it!

Too, take music while you are in the air-force, Flute or violin, from a music teacher! Learn Tennis and take a Martial Arts class.

Treat your self to the theater, see ballets and concerts! MARRY NO ONE before you are 35!

Tell all males that you have a large piece of Mistletoe on the back of your skirt and they should act like it is Christmas!

Do not think about what I have just written - just DO IT!

Last, keep this in mind - there are over 5 billion males on this earth and 3 billion of them are doing everything that they can to meet you!
2 and a half billion of them are about LUST only, so be careful, listen to no CRAP, if they are not about the manners that your grandmother taught you, don't even think about it!

And if I wasn't over 72 years old, I'd be in there with the rest of them!

So keep your head up, look everyone in the eye, shoulders straight, and ware your mistletoe proudly!

Answer 3

First of all, whoa! You have a LOT going on, especially for your age. You need to let everyone know you have your own stuff to worry about, and you can't be available 24/7. You're lucky that you have your own apartment to retreat to. Use it. If you need to, turn off the phone and don't answer the door. You're an adult now, and you can't get drawn into your parents personal problems. I'm not saying to abandon your family by any means, but sometimes you need to take time for yourself in order to recharge and focus yourself. By the way, you are paying WAY too much for a vehicle at your age. Keep up with the payments and get it paid off, because you'd better be driving that thing for awhile!

Answer 4

It sounds like you have alot on your plate right now, sorry to hear that your having such issues with family.

When I say "alot on your plate" I mean, for you, this is stressfull and your dealing with it alone.

At 18 you have a future ahead, it's about what you make of it now; things are changing and will; change; imagine this, your parents have alot of stress, they are maxed out also, just like you. Somtimes when you stress out you focus on you alone, it should not be a surprise that your parents are doing the same thing, should it?

Prioritize what you can accomplish; yes, work on family relations, see your dad, go see him physically, doesen't matter if it was a great visit, someday it may be, today is simply is not; your mom having anbother divorce, happens, yes, you can get dragged into it; they are adults, let them cope with it, your not at fault. You may see your mom "as letting " her soon to be ex bring you into it, yet, maybe she is not so in control as you may think and things actually happen without her consent, Maybe.
Keep tight in school, stay at work, pay your bills and learn from the mistakes of others as they are plentiful.

Answer 5

1. Remove yourself from the stressful situations with your family. That is, do not engage with your mother's conflict and don't spend a lot of time trying to get attention from an inattentive father.

2. Continue your studies.

3. Reduce your expenses if you need to. Get a less expensive vehicle and live with a roommate.

There is not reason why you can't have an excellent life. Getting started is hard. Stick with it!

Answer 6

Keep on keepin' on. Family is the most stressful part of life...always full of drama! Your 18 now, just worry about you and your problems. If you wanted to worry about other people's problems you would've chosen psychology instead of business as a major, right?