Should you care about what other people think?

Question

I'm so self cautious of myself and i try to tell myself that i should not care, but it does not seem to work. I mean from my clothes, my hair, to my face. Everyone tells me expecially my boyfriend that im beautiful but it just makes me think that they are telling me this just to make me feel better. What do you think?

Answer 1

I know its hard but you really shouldn't care that much how people think of you. Just try to think of all the things that you love about yourself. Remember that you have people who love you for who you are. If anyone judges you for how you look then they are shallow and probably more self conscious then you are. Try not to think about the things you don't like about yourself and show off the things you love. Remember that everyone is gorgeous, you just have to figure out how to show it off.

Answer 2

I had the exact same problem for years. Try something to boost your confidence or try joining a drama group... Get into the habit of not-doubting yourself! Assume you're right until someone tells you you're not! Get your friends together and go out in your pajama's on a reasonably warm day... It may seem embarassing and absurd but it really works... Once you've gone out like that once... Going out with messy hair or non-matching clothes won't seem like a big deal at all...

Answer 3

To a certain degree you should care, but you're opinion counts the most if you don't feel pretty well you suffer from self a steam issues because who is to say what is real beauty ?what is it you don't like about you're self? You are you real beauty is rare some thing you don't see twice. that is every individual has something pretty about them. we aren't all bless with perfect look actually no one is.

Answer 4

Well, people can be very criticizing sometimes, and you should be who you wanna be, not who they want you to be.

If you really are punk as your name says (Punkgirl) then you should be always prepared for people's different opinions on the way you look. However, they're not all right...

And hey, this boyfriend of yours is nice, even if he says that to make you feel better it's a sign that he cares (but I think he really means it..)

Answer 5

I go more along the line of not caring what other people think of me. If they don't like me then that is there problem. If you try to make everyone else happy there is no way you can make yourself happy.

Answer 6

I think it takes courage NOT to care, we all want to feel good, but as you get older, believe me, it doesn't matter so much. All your immediate friends and family think you are beautiful, that is all that matters. There will always be people who will be mean or jealous from kindergarten onwards! Be a rebel, DON'T CARE!!! (Or your friends will grow tired of constantly reassuring you....) :)

Answer 7

Popular culture is telling you that you should worry about these things so they can further sell you their products and retain you as a consumer. You must be yourself, and not let what you see online, on tv and in magazines control what you feel about how you look and feel. Be yourself. Do what makes YOU happy, not someone else.

Answer 8

No. The minute you care about what other people think about you, you will be always at the mercy of other people. Do whatever YOU feel is good for you as long as you are not hurting yourself or other people. Good luck ;)

Answer 9

You have to care what people think to a degree but not let it control your life. For example, in the work place, you have to dress nice for business reasons but if it is your day of, who cares?

Answer 10

dear, if u care about what others say, they u would never live upto their expectations coz they r soo demanding, and yet no one can be perfect. so jsut be urself, dont care about anyone else to some degree and extent, except those you love, respect them and take whatever they tell u as a compliment.