Is it wrong to plan your child's life?

Question

And not let them dream?

Answer 1

Yes. God has a special plan for each person. Let the child dream, and dream big! God often speaks thru dreams. And what is in the childs heart and desires is up to them. They need to follow their heart, and not someone else's. But you can encourage the child and support them and love them but let them choose their destiny. They'll end up respecting you more in the long run.

Answer 2

In my opinion yes if you are talking about future occupations, college, etc. I believe this hinders the child. Why not let them excel in something they enjoy? Many things in our lives start out as dreams- yet become reality.
Most of the time when parents try to plan their child's life- they are basically just living their own wants, needs, and regrets through their child.

Answer 3

It depends on how far you are planning it. If you stop at high school graduation, you probably are fine. If you go farther than that, you are going where even angels fear to walk. Are you God? Only He has the right to tell someone what to do with their life. You would save yourself and the child much trouble if you let a child be whatever they want to be in their adult life.

Answer 4

Yes, the american society has told us that our children should get a good education with no child left behind and go to college directly after highschool or else they will not successfully or correctly make it in the "real world". Lets say the child wants to become and artist or whatever and decides that college isn't what is best for them right after high school they are frowned upon. and also when they finish college and don;t marry and have children and pets adn live in the perfect house it just isn't correct they are being rebelious. I think parents should definetly show their beliefs you know religion wise and stress that school is important but what if your child becomes gay or drops out of high school and you going to ignore them because they didn't follow your path that they didn't decide on. I dunno, I am just saying that parents have the right to influence the child but not set a way of life for them in stone.

Answer 5

Yup. Children are not playthings for parents, or puppets for parents to play out the dreams they never achieved.
By all means give them all possible oppotunities and encourage them, but let them try everything and decide for themselves what they want.
Parents must ask themselves what their motives are, to have a happy child or a child that reflects their life how they wanted it. Its very unlikely the latter will produce a happy child.

Answer 6

yes let your child dream. Help him dream. Be there for the dreams. The dreams will change. Alot. Let your kid choose for themselves.

Answer 7

You should not dictate your childs life. Its wrong.
I have 2 baby girls, as they grow, i will observe their talents and skills. I will sort out their potential. Whatever desire they have, I will encourage them and help them pursue their dreams just as long its realistic.

If they don't want to become a doctor, then I will not frown.
They may have talents and skills you never had and its important that you don't destroy what God have given to them.

Answer 8

Everyone has the right to become whatever they want to be. It is perfectly fine to plan to send your child to the best schools available and give him/her every chance to excel, but anything past that only sets yourself up for disappointment if he/she decides to do something else with their life (which is the mostly likely outcome).

Answer 9

I find it very wrong. for the simple fact of and individual. Yes you want your child to grow and go farther in life them yourself but its there chose .

Answer 10

Yup. Guidance is needed but not planning. Otherwise you will be cheating your child out of living his or her own life.