Does marriage get boring as the years pass by?? does it become like a rutine?without that first feeling??

Question

i want to get married once im older but i think it might get boring and it wont be the same as being in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship....n i also plan to stay abstinant until marriage so marriage is a plus for me......

Answer 1

No it does not get boring, it just makes you stronger! Two people are really close when they first get married, but you grow together and learn more about each other as the years go by. You could never imagine life without having that person around you. Two people are still very independent when you get married, but you quickly realize how much you need that other person in your life, when something bad happens in your life and you need their strength, that's what makes you bond and become stronger through the years, the bad times and the good, and there will be plenty of those too. Hats off to you for staying abstinent until you're married! That's a word you hardly even hear these days. Just remember that if and when you do get married it should be till death do you part, just like your vows says. I know that 60 percent of everyone wouldn't agree with that, since those are the ones in Divorce court., but you have to see each other through the difficult times as well as the happy ones to make you stronger, and have a Love that will last and see you through everything! I have been married 30 years, and am going through a tough time right now, but somehow I believe we will make it through!

Answer 2

I guess you could say that, but if you only stay a boyfriend/girlfriend for years and don't get married, the same thing will happen. That's where the true love comes in and when the excitement wears off that you had at the beginning, your love kicks in and you just have this secure warm feeling of being loved and cherished. The excitement doesn't have to necessarily end. You need to keep it exciting with new things going on in the bedroom, and keep the communication going. Being married is so wonderful! We enjoy being together so much even after 16 yrs. We are best friends. There's no put ons or being fake. We can be ourselves and know we are truly loved. We have 2 beautiful kids to be proud of and care for together. We are always there for each other to help each other through life.....anyway, I could go on and on...........that's what true love does to you!

Answer 3

I have been married 27 years and I don't think boring is the word for it...it is more like "comfortable" . In the beginning it is soooo wonderful and then the kids and the bills start to come in and that sometimes takes presidence. As you grow older, you just naturally become more "comfortable" with eachother and when the kids eventually leave then your relationship becomes renewed because you have the time to spend on eachother that you didn't have when the bills and kids came first. Marriage is what you make it. and might I add it will be better for you if you have the gift of abstinance to give to your husband. He will reward you one hundred fold.

Answer 4

Many people may disagree with me but marriage does get boring.I was married 25 yrs. and it got boring around 12.We stayed together for the sake of the kids and that was a wrong move.We never argued in front of them or tried not to but they sense how you feel.I think people stay together for any length of time out of habit,for the kids,afraid of change of lifestyle' or even laziness believe or not. Also their religion forbids it The last one is, to me, absurd.
I'm not at all bitter about my past marriage.And I'm much happier now and my ex and I are on friendly terms.I have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend.We grew apart as all people do because we never stop changing. The person you marry will not be the same person you married and you won't be the same in 10 yrs.

Answer 5

Marriage gets better over the years. If you hang in any relationship (even friendships) long enough, you'll notice that your lives together are like the seasons. Sometimes not much happens and it seems a bit "boring", other times too much is happening (so much you wish that the world would just stop!), then there's those times of utter bliss (peace in the midst of the storms). . . It's truly a matter of where your faith, focus, and mind is. If you anchor yourself spiritually, building your relationship and yourself on the foundations of your faith, you'll quickly discover the ins & outs of making your marriage last, keeping yourself grounded, and finding other ways to pass the time (as opposed to griping/complaining, nit-picking and becoming idle allowing your mind to wander on that which it shouldn't).

I love my husband, our kids, my life -- We've been blessed with what we need and some of our wants. We're in love and happy. We've both quality time & quantity time. . . Things haven't always been peaceful, perfect or bliss. . . But we've toughed out storms, overcame obstacles, and are still hanging on. To be really frank, my marriage has been described by either myself, my husband, and others by every adjective you could find in the dictionary/thesaurus, over the last several years. The fun part for us has been to look back at situations, arguments, separations, circumstances, etc and realizing that inspite of the statistics and odds against us, we've made it & are making it. We live and think "VICTORY" and not defeat. . . But that's too in where our faith is.

Answer 6

Ok, as long as you truly love the person you're marrying, it shouldn't get boring. Every marriage does have that potential, however, because "life" can just get in the way sometimes. You're both working, money gets tight, things happen. Still, if you love each other, its worth it. The key is, keep sex from getting into a routine, always communicate, and respect one another. Oh yeah, and give each other a little space now and than.

Answer 7

Marriage is like anything in life.....you get out of it what you put into it. As long as you understand it is hard work and you marry someone who is willing to give as much as you are, it won't be any more boring or of a routine than any other aspect of your life.
Congratulations on staying abstinent! I commend your choice!

Answer 8

Marriage like anything else has its up and down times and its good times and bad and hard times as well as good times... However if you choose to love each other and work together through the hard and tough times you will become stronger and better over time and your marriage will get much better and stronger over time and you will be more in love then you ever were before. If you get bored then you do and try things to spice it up and make it more fun:)

Answer 9

Only if you let it get boring. Even bf/gf get in ruts, you just don't have a deeper committment holding you to that person. As you get older relationships mature in way that can be lovely and fulfilling. The key is to remember to spice it up and keep things interesting between you two. Remember why you came to love this person and try to keep the outside world out of your relationship.

Answer 10

Marriage is anything but boring. If you're bored in your marriage, you're not putting forth any effort to make your relationship grow.

If this is your view of marriage then you're right to want to remain single for the time being.