i know the young man, and he's nice and respectable. i just don't feel right with the 2 of them being out alone.
2007-03-08 06:47:55 · 30 answers · asked by luv my kids nasty comm. unwanted 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
do you think she would totally hate me if i suggested that her older sister (age 17) and her date went with them?
2007-03-08 07:01:36 · update #1
do you think she would totally hate me if i suggested that her older sister (age 17) and her date went with them?
2007-03-08 07:01:48 · update #2
if you trust your daughter and the guy, why not? make sure she has a cell phone, money for a cab or a public phone, just in case. ask her where she's going, what time she'll be back, etc. but don't, i repeat, DONT suggest that she bring her big sister on the date. itll only make her angry at you. if your older daughter brings it up, then she might go for it, but certainly not her mother. shell definitely get upset, shell get into the whole 'dont u trust me' thing, and its just not worth it. its better to not let them go out at all if you want her to go on a date with a chaperone.
2007-03-08 10:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by cookie_monster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 15 when I got my first real boyfriend that I got to go on dates with him. He went to our church and my mom really knew him and his family. Needless to say, even though we went to church and all, we had to much alone time in the car and I got pregnant, AT 15. But that was our faults, nobody Else's. Anyways, we are now married, for almost 4 years and expecting our 3 baby in July-august, but just don't leave them in a car or where they can do things. Drop him and her, or just her off where they will be and let them have fun. I love my mom with all my heart, but where she went wrong was that we were not aloud in the house, so after our movie, we would sit in his car, sometimes 3-4 hours and things are bound to happen. If she is ok with her sister being in the same place, but maybe not right with them the entire time, that would really be great. All you can do is talk to them and then hope they make the right choices. Good luck
2007-03-08 16:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by kristin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she's upset, she has to understand that you are still mom, and what you say goes, regardless of how she feels. You don't have to present it as such, at least not initially, but just let her know that you love her, and want to make sure she will be ok. If she and her sister have a good relationship, it should be ok for them to double date, as a matter of fact, it'll take some of the pressure off. I think in this day and age, you're better safe than sorry. Good Luck!
2007-03-08 17:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by prplluva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you.. Respectable or not there is always the possiblity of trouble. Kids sometimes dont think. They believe that they are bullet-proof. But having a social life is a good thing too. Encourage her to do a group-date or have a party (where you are, of course!) Definately give her a curfew and be up waiting for her. Naturally when she gets home tell her how much you love her and how proud you are of her and show an increase of love.
2007-03-08 15:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is very common to go out on a date at 15. i went on my first date a the age of 14.
2007-03-08 16:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... tough one. It really is a tough one-I mean you trust your daughter-but she's only 15... hmmm, I would say yes, but I mean if you don't feel right letting them go alone then have them go with a group of friends or even a sibling-shoot, I'd tag along!! Lol. Good luck!! Oh hey-this just popped in my head, you and a friend can take her and her date to the movies but just see different movies and meet up in the lobby... maybe I am too over protective?! My kid is going to hate me isn't she?! Lol. Again, good luck!
2007-03-08 14:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by Edith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, she's 15. You should let them go out. Not anywhere where they might get tempted to do something they regret.Maybe a movie or mini-golf or something.And asking your 17 year old would not go over well with her.Plus,as long as you trust her and her boyfriend,they should be fine alone.
2007-03-08 15:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by eVeRyBoDy SiNg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she would hate you because my daughter would hate me. If she's trustworthy just know where she's going give her your cell phone so you can call her anytime & she'll probably have a really good innocent time. You have to let go just a little or at least that's what people tell me
2007-03-08 16:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So have a little influence on the situation. Suggest that they go to a movie. You drive them there, you pick them up afterwards.
In the meantime, keep in mind that you have to let go sometime. If you've done a good job as a parent, you should be able to trust your daughter.
2007-03-08 14:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, 15 is to young to date. I'll start letting my daughter do group dates at 16.
2007-03-08 14:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋