Im not talking about a FORCED marriage, arranged has full consent. What do you think of it?
Do you think they may actually fall in love?
Do you know anyone who's had an arranged marriage??
2007-03-08 06:45:16 · 22 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it totally depends on your outlook on love. If you're the sort of person for whom the western definition of love is true(i.e. heart pounding, rose-tinted view of the world etc.) then an arranged marriage is not the answer. If on the other hand you believe love is something you work at and it grows with time and experience then it may well work. My parents had an arranged marriage and were happily married for 45 years and were only separated by death and then not for very long either. Every one of my brothers and sisters have had arranged marriages, they've all been married for 18 plus years and they have been happy. Then again my arranged marriage was the worst experience of my life - so maybe it's pot luck
2007-03-08 07:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by zbak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriage can very much work, best example: in the USA people fall in love, date for a long time but guess what ?more then half of those are divorced and most of those divorced end up being single parents. In the other hand, in poor countries where there is still arrange marriage, very rare when those couple get divorce. they tend to survive anything that comes there way. Basically you grow together and so does your love and family. If he agrees on the arranged marriage that means he has a lot of respect for his family. Or would u rather marry someone who had seen so many girl friends before you?
2007-03-08 07:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by dreamer_VA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think an arranged marriage has probably got a better chance of working than any other type. There are no misconceptions involved, you havent got `love` blinding you to reallity , it would be a partnership in the true sense of the word.
I am assuming that your parents are arranging the marriage for you, They are going to want the very best for you and will know your needs probably better than you yourself does (we tend to hide ourselves from the nasty side of us).
The fact that you are obviously openly discussing this possible marriage shows great promise for your future marriage. As to falling in love , yes I do think you can and It will be a more long lasting love than the lust that most people confuse with love.
2007-03-08 08:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband works with Indians and Asians and they go back to their home country to get married all the time. Arranged marriages are normal, and the men come back with their new brides and seem totally happy even years and years later. They may or may not fall in love in the Western view of heart pounding/fireworks. But who knows? Hopefully the parents have good taste!!
2007-03-08 06:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe in arranged marriages - my husband and I got married because we were in love and I think that's the way to go.
2007-03-08 06:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages can work and are often fine with everyone
concerned...
I personally prefer to know & love whom I marry..
No reason arranged marriages cannot be successful and loving...
2007-03-08 06:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a ridiculous question. All weddings have to be arranged. How are people supposed to know what time to turn up? My brothers wedding was very well arranged. Come to that, so was his divorce.
2007-03-12 06:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother's parents had an arranged marriage, but my parents and my father's parents had love marriages and have been far happier
2007-03-08 07:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may start to care for one anOTHER, BUT IM NOT SURE ABOUT REAL LOVE OR IF ARRANGED MARRIAGES ARE MESSING WITH FATE. i came from 3000 miles away just to meet my husband. I went for school and met my husband moved back with him finishe dschool got married and had kids. i believe we are soul mates 11 years later. We were meant for eachother and I was destined to find him.
2007-03-08 06:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both partys agree to the marrage then i see nothing wrong with it. as they have agreed ,then there is a good chance the marrage will succeed as they both went into the arrangement with there eyes wide open.they would have to work at the marrage just the same, if not harder than most couples.
2007-03-12 07:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋