My Wife is involved with someone else, She won't forgive me for some Online indiscretions.?

Question

She says she is dead to me on the romance side of things though we are "Friends". Any help on helping her forgive me, and how to make this work

Thanks all for your Help

The Online indiscrestions were chatting to people as if I might meet them (Never Did), and looking at some porn sites (some more obsucre than others).

I really have stopped that, and never really let it change how I treated my wife.

This new person is described as a "Soul Connection" which I do understand. She is mine, an we do still sahre some things together I just want to make it better, and get back some of the intimacy we've lost

Answer 1

My friend, I'm sorry but when a woman makes a remark like that I would have to consider her dead serious. If shes involved with someone else you can bet she meant exactly what she said.
Forget the "friends" business. Thats her way of telling you no sex, no romance, no nothing other than she'll discuss the weather with you. I think you may wish to explore cutting ties and moving on. Either that or find someone else to become involved with. If it's come to this what have you got to lose?

Answer 2

Romance her! Treat her like you did when you were dating. Go out and have fun together, to dinner and dancing or whatever you two did when you were dating. Good luck with this. Sometimes an emotional attachment with another person even online can severely damage a marriage-from now on think before you do that..

Answer 3

She is the one cheating don't let her do this to you go out and have fun having one night stands for a week or 2 you will forget all about her it's her fought if she would have been taking care of business you wouldn't have been online looking she has probably been cheating long before you did what you did.

Answer 4

You were wrong, that's all there is to it. Now, like the other person stated, try dating her all over again. Prove to her that you only want HER and you will regain her trust that you are not lusting after other women on the Internet. In today's day, everyone knows that cyber relationships are considered betrayed. Why open yourself up to that? Your wife is hurt, and I'm sure with time, and effort on your part, you will get her back.

Answer 5

All you can do is give her some time and space to get over what you have done. Technically there is nothing you can do. Just try to learn from your mistakes and become a better person for yourself. Maybe she will see it and decide to give you another chance.

Answer 6

I think thats just an excuse. I would say your wife was involved before your online thing happened. Look back at before this happened did something feel wrong . Women dont just get mad and then get involved with someone .You cannt be that blind.

Answer 7

To say that "she is dead to you" is a very strong statement. You may be too optimistic that you will be able to overcome her hostile attitude towards you. Frankly, it is hard to imagine what words or deeds that could overcome her opinion of you in this context.

It might be more prudent in every one welfare to go their separate ways.

Answer 8

so, your WIFE is involved with SOMEONE ELSE, she says she is dead to you. Obviously this is her way of getting out of this relationship. "on-line indescretions" dont give anyone the right to go cheat on the other. she just saw it as a way out. You just dont get it. DIVORCE

Answer 9

oh hon dont beat a dead horse your both in the wrong file the papers and let this go

Answer 10

Start to date her all over again.