How do I stop letting myself go all to pieces when something goes wrong. I act like it is the end of the world

Question

Ever time something goes real bad for me I take it like its the end of the world and it isnt going to get better. Get real depressed. How do u just take the promblem and deal with it without that kind of reaction.

Answer 1

...try re-evaluating 'who you are'. Your "person". How "you" relate within yourself and with the world around you

...used to be in ur shoes but i realized that "why worry about something i can't change? why give myself sleepless nights and chronic headaches over an event that i can't alter?"

Carpe Diem

Answer 2

Hello there!

Everyone manifests its own way about an issue or a problem. Some people have found the way how to overcome the pain and suffer and some other not.

I used to be like that. Ok, maybe I'm still a person who is sensitive.

First of all you should know that no matter if you want or not, things will happen. Sometimes good things ( always least expected after a big worries) and sometimes bad things unfortunately.

My friend told me that I should find my inner strenght to survive and move forward. I suggest you the same as my yahoo friend.

And yes there is a small part that you can do to change this.
Every time something bad happens, ask yourself : is there something that you can change? If yes act, do something, you will feel better about yourself and the situation that you are dealing. You will feel that you are capable of solving your problems.
However there are things that you can't change. And you should accept things as they are and have peace what is from god.

Personally if I have a small problem...I let myself to suffer for one day...and then the other day Itotally forget it. Sometimes it is good to deal with the pain and move on.
Also you can discuss with your firend and realize that , REALLY, it is not the end of the world.

Life is too short, try to be less sad and more happy. And trust me it all depends from you.

I wish you a good luck, from my bottom of my heart.

Take care my yahoo friend!

Answer 3

This is an ingrained behavior pattern, but you can modify it with some concentrated effort over time.

Instead of reacting both immediately and negatively, when something bad happens, I suggest that you start your reaction by asking yourself three things...

1. What are some creative ideas to deal with this in a way to end up in a better place than I was before this happened?

2. Thinking about the more interesting possible ways to deal with my situation, what are the BOTH the negatives and positives in my situation? Disadvantages and advantages, weaknesses and strengths, limitations and possibilities, costs and potential benefits, risks and possible rewards...you get the idea.

3. What are my next steps?

Thinking along these lines will put your mind on a problemsolving track, instead of the usual negative down-spiral. The more you think constructively about what to do, the less you'll be inclined to indulge in self-pity. You can do it, but you'll have to make an effort. The more you do it, the easier it will get. Sometime in the future, if you persist, it can become your new pattern. Good luck, Misty!

Answer 4

If I were you I would read some self-help books and see which agrees with you. I am the same as you. I fall apart. I also am challenged with losing a family member because I am not thick skinned enough to deal with their partner. So I need to retreat and do what is best for me. It is very hard and I cry to no end. Then, there is tomorrow and little by little I focus on my plan to remove the thorn. Immediate family is the worse, you want them around, but they make you ill...what do you do? What ever is best for you.
I think it is a one day at a time.
Go to your favorite book and read the part that picks you up or a religious book.
Don't let anyone tell you to grow up...the reactions will come...try to calm yourself and decide what is best for you. You will find after time others are doing their thing so don't be ashamed to do yours.
Even if they don't understand. The religious books work for me, I know I am not alone. And I lay my problem in the hands of another when it is to big for me to handle alone.

Answer 5

We all hate disappointment, and our first emotional reaction could be that it is the 'end of the world' at that current moment. I think that's a common reaction to something that means something to you. Now what you do with that 'end of the world' feeling is where experience, learning and cognitive thinking come in.

When you're a baby or young child and someone hurts your feelings or takes your toys away - you do cry like it's the end of your world. As you get older - you have lots of 'end of your world' feelings and you learn that it's not the end of the world, but that it's a very painful feeling, and what growing up is all about is learning that you are going to have those emotions, no matter what. They're yours and your entitled to them. The difference though is how you react to those emotions and what you say to yourself or others about those emotions.

You may have heard the term 'control your emotions' and while no one can actually do that, they can control how they deal with them. You feel like it's the end of the world, but the world keeps turning, and you have to find a way not to allow those emotions to keep you from turning with it ...

Answer 6

I keep in mind that going to pieces doesn't make the problem any better and will not allow me to make a rational decision.

I deal with everything as it comes at me unless there's something I can do ahead of time to prevent it from happening in the first place.

I try to keep a positive attitude as best as I can.

I've gotten through a lot of tough times by remaining calm, and dealing.

Answer 7

Grow up is the first thing that comes to mind...good luck