We are 20 year old newly weds with a baby. His brother(19) is bad news and my husband tinks he can help him. He's in and out of trouble all the time. Not only that wen we go out, he treats his brother; he's a grown *** man. I don't think he should invade our brand new life like this.
2007-03-08 06:24:02 · 8 answers · asked by yeah_ok 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband and i are in our 20s, have 2 children, and are currently sharing a 3 bedroom house with a friend. It sucks. I hate it. it was ok in the beginning, but now i cant wait to move out, and have my house all too myself again. If you think his brother is rouble then trust your instincts. Talk to your husband tell him how you feel. And let him know that having to share a house with someone when yall havent even been married that long is going to put a huge strain on you both. Its not fair to you, if you dont want him there. Stand up for yourself, bc if you dont it just gets worse
2007-03-08 06:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by rednecksurfer_roxy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your primary responsibility is to your children, so absolutely, if you can get them closer to dad you do that. Second, your mil is responsible for her own feelings. Not you, not your husband. As long as you are polite, don't worry about the rest. He's a man and he needs to act like it. It doesn't sound to me like he has an issue with you moving. So don't worry about it. This is her issue, so don't take ownership of it. You need to remember one thing and if you always remember this, you will do a lot better. You and your husband are first in your lives, always, then your children and so on. Stick to those rules. Do not let her manipulate her and don't even discuss it if she cannot be supportive. Let it go and move. Good luck, you truly are doing the right thing. Also, look at it this way. Look at the things she is saying and the way she is behaving. You think it will not happen again even if you stay? You will hate living next door to her with this kind of behavior, it's best that you do move.
2016-03-28 23:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's heart may be in the wrong place, but he is ignorant to think he can change someone.
Your marriage to him was not an agreement with his family. It was between the two of you. You have no responsibility to open your home to his siblings, parents, or any other relatives.
Explain to your husband that you love him and you love his family but you can't raise a baby, provide a good homelife, or even feel safe if his brother is living with you. That's all that really needs to be said. If he insists, inform him (lie) that his brother wants to sleep with you.
2007-03-08 06:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley do not let him live with you guys. You are a young family just starting out really and you do NOT need this added stress....even if his brother was a good guy, this is still not an advisable situation.....letting him stay with you guys is going to create nothing but problems between you and your husband. Believe it.
2007-03-08 06:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that is a hastle and if you have a new born x2. Newborns require a lot of organization to keep up so the extra body around is going to be multitask city
2007-03-08 07:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by bubbba2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Fish and house guests both stink after three days"(sic).
That Ben Franklin was very wise.
2007-03-08 06:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are justified.
2007-03-08 06:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope..
You are not wrong..
2007-03-08 06:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋