Whai IS anger? How can you get rid of it when you can't get away from the person who angers you?

Question

The person is a relative/business partner pushing every button I have to make me walk away from my investment. I hardly ever experience anger in other situations. How can I keep myself from having a stroke while I wait out the "deal"

Answer 1

Anger is a common emotional (physiological and psychological) response to a perceived threat of pain to self or important others, present, past, or future. The threat may appear to be real or imagined.
I think anger is often a main response to the perception of threat due to a physical conflict, injustice, negligence, humiliation or inability to understand your own feeling among other contentions.

Answer 2

Now that's a loaded question.

Biologically speaking, anger is still somewhat of a mystery. We know animals can get angry, but it's ordinarily in response to a threatening stimulus. Humans get angry at people who might just happen to say the wrong thing, or something similar. Although not biologically threatening, the brain interprets it as a threat to the person's dignity, which is a drawback of sentience, because people can interpret that as a life-or-death thing if they're prone to anger.

Psychologically, there are a variety of ways to handle anger, but for me it was a matter of desensitization. I was exposed to it constantly before college, but in high school, things got slightly better, which is a benefit of the overall maturation of the general student body. Before college, and even still to a degree today, I'm prone to anger, but I've learned to contain it, and release it at a more appropriate time, such as in private, or on a punching bag, or some other form of stress relief. Ordinarily though, I consider myself a fairly happy person, albeit a bit cynical. Controlling anger, much like anything involving the human brain, takes time...nothing in psychology is an instant process.

In regards to the person or persons who aggravate you, it's never impossible to simply walk away. If they do what a lot of jerks do and physically try to box you in to try to get you angrier, the only option is to fight, but that's another Answer. If you find that defending yourself is the ONLY option, and ONLY when every other option is exhausted, make sure you have someone nearby who can verify that you could do nothing else. Alternatively, that can also be prevented by telling someone in authority. It's not tattling or anything of the sort...if people didn't report bank robberies or murders, the criminals would still be out there unpunished. Rely on authority above all else, and your aggressors will leave you alone.

Answer 3

First of all, you need to focus on what it is that is making you angry. Second, you need to calm down and breath. We all get upset over goofy things, but there is no need to get so angry. Things happen and there's really not much that can be done about them once it's happened. The only thing we can do is make the choice as to how we are going to handle it. Anger only makes things worse. I find that when I am calm and rational, I can work problems out better. Perhaps you could try that too. Thank you and good luck.

Answer 4

Anger is a form of self defence. By showing anger you are emitting signals of "don't cross me". Unfortunately it is a personality trait of someone who is always being hurt by others simply because they cannot stand their ground.

Define your borders or limitations and make people quite aware what your principles, beliefs and morals are and they won't go there.

It is not good brooding about your anger once everybody has gone their separate ways - it compounds your problem. Rather avoid them, or avoid the topics that anger you. Walk away and don't get involved.

Not easy - good luck!

Answer 5

You can always get away from the person who angers you--even if you have to live in the same household. Just go about your own business, keep your mouth shut, and be doing productive things (school/work/self-help related things/art/music/writing/cleaning up after yourself/healthy living)--so that the person who angers you can't just call you a lazy good for nothing...

Answer 6

How can you get rid of it? Grit your teeth & bear it until you are away from the person. Then, call a good friend to explain the situation to them, and get the frustration off your chest.