My boyfriend & I have been together for about 3 years (rocky years) He has his own condo, I'm 24, I still live home as I'm a student & can't afford to go it alone yet. We fight alot already, have broken up a few times for a few days at a time. For some reason, we just CAN'T let each other go. Even when we are making each other miserable being broken up feels far worse. Anyways, my mother is sick of my drama, so she suggested that I just move in with him, she thinks then I'd finally see how bad it would be & I would dump him for good. Anyone out there move in with their bf/gf when you guys already had trouble? How'd it turn out? Thanks!
2007-03-08 06:05:15 · 8 answers · asked by Ashley 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your mother is right, it would be the end of the relationship.
Better to just end it without making the mistake of moving in together. The only reason the two of you don't end it is you guys are afraid of being alone. It's a dysfunctional relationship, why keep it going?
Don't move in, just end it and move on.
2007-03-08 06:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is Mom gonna take you back when it all falls apart? You are old enough to be able to realize when something just isn't going to work so why hang on to this? What are you two getting out of it that you won't let go? Fear of moving on?
Seems an expensive (emotionally and financially) lesson to move in with someone just to 'prove' something you already know (y'all aren't an appropriate match as as couple).
2007-03-08 06:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you shouldnt move in with this guy.. either a short this toxic relationship out and when there is some stability do it or b let go.. is it fear that youve nown each other for so long it would be hard to move on to some one new..? youd be vunerable? you should like a smart person if you already question if you should move in with him.. moms alway know whats best even wn we dont see it.. do you really wanna hear i told you so?? is mom trying to get her daughter to grow up and move out and let go the apron strings?
gal use your sense!! dont do it it would be a painful lesson
2007-03-08 06:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pepsi cola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move it with him. It may hurt to let him go but you find yourself in a better situation than before. You deserve to be happy, don't prolong the inenvitable. Dump him,move on, and be on your own and don't move in with any guy before you get married because why would he buy the cow when he gets the milk for free.
2007-03-08 06:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it, didn't work out made a bigger mess, had to move out fought for two more years. UGLY situation. If you are fighting it never works to move closer together. find some place else to live and just break up. Life is short don't spend it fighting with someone. you could drop dead tomorrow.
2007-03-08 06:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by katie d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mothers suggestion is a good one, move in with him and give him that benefit of doubt, (i assume your mum has by this action accept him as your husband).He would either change or confirm that he cannot behave differently no matter what, then you might possibly be able to leave him for good or carry your cross.
2007-03-08 06:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by oluwatobi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After age 18, do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship
without marriage...Never have kids out of wedlock...Never marry someone with whom you are already having problems...Always
get a Pre-nup...
Sounds like you need to find a new b/f...
Do not move in with your old b/f...
2007-03-08 06:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
please be careful i moved in with by boyfriend after 2 bad years, i then got pregnant and spent 8yrs in a relationship that was wrong all along!
2007-03-08 06:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by jenjen77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋