how hard is it to be a teenage single parent?

Question

i just turned 18yrs 6 days ago and might be pregnate...a good chance,and i dont talk to the guy anymore and i know 100% he doesnt want to be involved
>is it harded to find a new boyfriend like after the baby?

Answer 1

I'm sorry, but if you are pregnant you shouldn't be concerned about finding another boyfriend. You should be more concerned for your baby and how you are going to take care of it. It's too bad that your boyfriend now doesn't want anything to do with a baby.. He will be missing out on a lot and will still have to pay. When he doesn't, he will go to jail. And yes, it IS hard to be a teenage mother. I'm not, but I am a 26 year old married woman with a 16 month old girl, and if it's hard for me, then it's going to be really hard for you.

Answer 2

You should be more concerned about the baby then finding a new boyfriend. Get a home pregnacy test and find out for sure. Your going to be to busy to worry about a new man anyway. Being a mom at any age is hard I had my first at 16 almost 17 but the father and I are still together/married 10 years now so I cant help with the finding a new boyfriend. But I would suggest being up front about having a child so you weed out the complete losers before getting involved.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Oh my - you have NO IDEA what you are in store for! I too became pregnant shortly after my 18th birthday. My son will be 14 years old the end of this month. I married his father then divorced him 4 years later. His father was never home so I felt like a single parent; however I didn't have to work. I hope you have a huge support system with family and friends that you can truly trust! Friends at your age will slowly disappear the further along you get. This is the time you really need to really think hard about your decisions. It is possible but your dreams will be put on hold for a very long time!

Answer 4

I was a teenage mom, and yes, it is hard. I had a good support system (my mom, my grandmother, the baby's father, and his family), and it was still hard. It can be done though. You just have to work extra hard to achieve what you want in life, and don't let anyone tell you that your life is over because you have a child.

As far as looking for a new boyfriend, you will definately be able to find a new boyfriend after having a baby, HOWEVER, that shouldn't be your focus right now. Focus on giving you and your child a good life, and the "boyfriend" will come later.

Answer 5

Its not up to him to decide to be uninvolved, you will need child support from him, he may not have much now, but possibly in the future there may be a reason to make certain he is legally known as the father, not to mention the child has a right to know who its father is, you can't just not care about the dad anymore and figure you child won't either, I've never seen that happen. Its very difficult to raise a child with two parents, let alone one who has to support and care for an infant, you can always ask for help from your parents, but imposing on them for long periods of time is just immature and irresponsible.
You will find yourself worrying more about trying to get enough sleep and caring and paying for a baby than whether or not you have a boyfriend, in fact the fact that you are worried about your love life indicates you don't have a good handle on how time consuming infants are.
He doesn't want to be involved, but he is. You don't want to be involved either from the sound of it but you are, please consider all your options with a qualified person before you make up your mind as to what you choose to do.
Babies are not easy when you are alone.

Answer 6

First off, its only as hard as you make it. I'm sure you will have some days that seem harder than others. My best friend is 16 and has a daughter. She isnt with the baby's father anymore and she's doing fine. If you have a great support system things will be okay. I am 22 and had my son two months ago although I'm married I still have some hard days. Its natural. As for finding someone else I'm sure you will. If you need anyone to talk to I'm here!!!

Answer 7

I had my little boy 2 days before my 18th birthday (best b-day prezzie ever!) My b/f, the baby's dad, decided he didn't want to know when I was 6 months pregnant.

I'm not going to kid you and say it's easy, coz it's not, but with help from family and friends, I coped and I can't imagine my life without my little boy now!!

It is harder to find a b/f, I suppose, but when you do, if he accepts you and your child, he's the right kind of man!! It took me 3 years after I had my son to get into a serious relationship. He's the most amazing man, I've been with him 2 years now, and we're expecting a baby girl together in April (I'm 31 weeks).

Good luck, and just to let you know, a lot of us have been through it, and it is the most amazing, tiring, wonderful and stressful time of your life, but when you look back, you'll know you wouldn't change a thing!

:-)

Answer 8

It's hard bringing up a child even as a couple, and I'm 25! It will be hard but a child is worth all of the hardship. You may find it difficult to find a new boyfriend as a lot of boys your age aren't ready to become "dads", even though that won't be what you're after straight away. The right one for you will look after you and your baby regardless of the fact that he's not the father.

Answer 9

Oh sweetie, I'm a single parent myself. I got pregnant at 18yrs old and had my daughter at 19yrs old. I had to grow up real fast, but looking back on it now, it was all worth it. I'm not going to say it'll be easy by any means...because it's not. You'll have your family behind you all the way. And after the baby, you'll have no problem in finding a boyfriend. You'll eventually find someone that loves you and that baby like there wasn't another person on the planet. Don't worry...you'll be fine!

Answer 10

Single mother at 17. I am now 29 and honestly it will be the hardest thing you have ever done. It is not hard to date when you have child but to be fair to your child you cannot parade guys in and out of their life, it is wrong and confusing. So even though you can date it is still hard. You should be asking how hard is it finish college as a single mother, because that is the deal breaker. That will determine if you have 5-6 years that are hard or 18. It is hard to raise a child with no college degree, I know. It is hard for my family to raise our children and we have 2 incomes.