Is it ok to have a friendship with your Ex if both of you are married to other people now?

Question

My ex-fiance that I was with for 5 years, recently found me after 8 years. We're both married and happy. Is it ok to have a friendship now?

Answer 1

Yes! Absolutely! It's not only healthy but, admirable. Whomever said "Exes" were to become mortal enemies after Divorce or past relationships are sad people.

I am friends with my "Ex" and it is okay. We are great friejnds, and we don't beat each other up over what didn't work or go right. Too many people think Divorce means hate the other forever. How immature.

Some Ex partners do desreve to be shunned and disliked but, often more than not; many are worthy of friendship. I mean, this is someone we once loved. Why hang onto hate or dislike? It only weakens us as decent people.

Answer 2

Are you really over this ex, why would you want to be friends
with someone that you were with 5 years, you know that you still have some feelings for him Does your husband know about your relationship prior to your marriage,, Do what you want but I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone you stated recently found me has he been looking for you.
I think you walking on thin ice If it was me and I really loved my husband I'd suggest they find some other friends , just to be on the safe side.

Answer 3

I wouldn't want my husband being friends with an ex. Period. There's a reason they are exes. The only exeption to friendly exes is if there are kids involved and even then it should be restricted to the subject of the kids. It's a matter of respect.

Answer 4

Yes, it is alright to have a friendship as long as that is all it is!.... I would inform my husband of this so he knows about it and isnt told by someone else who may make it look worse then it is.............

There is nothing wrong with having friends even if they were you ex at one point and time that is your past......

Inform the husband that you are going to coffee with this man and talk....... dont do it behind his back..

Answer 5

Why did your ex look you up after all this time? I can't say whether it's right or not...it's your relationship. Just seriously think about how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your husband's ex wanted to be his "friend".

Answer 6

i agree with shady, your X was left in the past and friends with an X leads to other things eventually. think of it this way. if your husband finds his X.He would start to notice that she looks better, funnier and smarter then she was when he was with her (she would do her best to show him that he lost big because he didn't chose her) then his mind would start to wonder what it would be like if she was his...etc. My advice: both of you and husband should agree on no contact with the X, no e-mail no calls no text message Nada. You'll feel much better and he would feel even better that he doesn't have to compete with your X ( he wouldn't admit it unless he was pushed till he can't take it any more.

Answer 7

Only if it is okay with both of your new spouses. I don't think your spouse should have any say in who you hang out with, but when it comes to someone you used to sleep with, you are really inviting a lot of jealousy and mistrust by socializing with an ex.

Answer 8

Well my way of thinking is, u talk to ur husband about it, if he has no problems with the two of u being friends, if his wife doesnt have a problem with the two of u being friends, then so be it..

But if either ur husband , or his wife, feels threatened by the relationship, then u need to leave well enough alone and bow out of it.. out of respect for both of your marriages..

Answer 9

yes it is very natural to still have a friendship, if both of you are happily married, then there should be no issue to be friends with each other. just keep in on a friendly level.

Answer 10

Yes. But this may cause hard feelings between the two spouses. I think if their is children involved consider their feelings in this also.

Good Luck!!!